So you want to be happy? What exactly does that mean to you? For the people that I support that usually means finding a healthier relationship with love, sex and their bodies. For many of us, the path to happiness means some kind of self improvement on one level or another. And there is definitely a ton of information out there to support you on your endeavor especially if your happiness is linked to physical fitness, money, love and sex.
There is so much information available from the eager programs promising a path to happiness, that it can be quite overwhelming. Frankly, I find it numbing. And I worry that sometimes I contribute to numbness – after all I am a sexuality and intimacy coach specializing in the issues of women and couples. I am self employed, and I have to get my messages out there. Just like Nike or any other business – I have to market. That means I need to inspire you to want to change and want more in your life. My role is to inspire your happiness. But can you hear me in the endless stream of high pitched shrieking on social media? Sometimes, I can't hear myself or anyone else in the endless posts on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest (just to name a few) all screaming self help messages.
Spend five minutes on Facebook and take it all in. We are suppose to let go, meditate, get moving, surrender, get attached, eat less, give up gluten, love my body, change my body, declare my intentions, stop procrastinating, be responsible for my own happiness, be kind, pay it forward, be selfish, give more and be the orgasm.
The list of inspirational messages that flood me daily from my self help colleagues vying for attention can bring me to mental shut down. And a lot of it is great stuff! So how do you find your path to happiness? How can you support your New Year's Resolutions? How do you find the right “self help” inspite of all of this inspirational overload?
Tips For Wading Through The Self Help Highway:
1. Slow all of this information down. Don't even try to take it all in. It will all begin to sound meaningless and start to go in one ear and out the other. Pick one thing.
2. Try picking one word this year that could be your personal path to happiness and start building your year around that. Try staying focused on that word and all of your ideas that support your word. Work on turning those ideas into your daily practice – it can become much easier that way to see if you are getting anywhere. My word is “Create”.
3. Choose your support system and try to stick to just them for a while. Don't read every self help blog, post, sticker and book. Too much information will start to slow down your progress. There is no way that you can do everything that all of the self help wonders can tell you to do. Find who inspires you and work that path into your life for awhile. I think that inspiration is great and get your daily dose. But pay attention that you are not simply becoming a container for ideas instead of actually moving towards you own happiness.
No one has your exact path to happiness. The best that most of us self help guros have is a blue print. Try not to let us overwhelm you with our passion. If you do - you might find that you lose your way among all of this inspiration.
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