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The mistletoe is looming. The holiday party invitations are starting to come in—and you are beginning to wonder if all the Spandex in the world could hold in your belly this year. You may decide to try and buy something new and all you can see is back fat. Do they make a girdle for back fat? Oh yes! I forgot—you can get one of those 100 dollar strait jacket miracle body suits that push your fat up into your neck and spend the night not breathing. The shame, guilt, woulda's, shoulda's and coulda's are starting to pick up speed in your brain. Is this how you want to live?
If I tell you that your fat doesn't matter. That your fat is not standing in the way between you and a sexy, fun holiday season—will you believe me? Maybe not. That is why I am inviting you to take my "Fat and Sexy Holiday Challenge".
1. Mind Over Matter: Go into every situation deciding ahead of time, and behaving that you know—deep in your bones—that you can have as wonderful a time as anybody else at this event. Know that you will be fabulous, and at the very least "just fine". Your weight does not have to hold you back from meeting someone interesting and sexy to talk to, having fun and dancing the night away if you choose. If you decide that your weight will hold you back from any of these things—the chances are that it will. So be like the "Little Engine That Could"—and think you can!
Size Does Not Have To Stand In The Way Of Holiday Romance!
2. Know What You Want: Just because you are fat does not mean that you can't get what you want. The key to getting what you want is knowing what you want. So many people who are struggling with weight—dream about what they will get when they are in some other body. But what about now? Why wait until some day if you can have what you want now? Can you even consider that possibility? The trick here is to figure out what you want now—and go after it. So if you want to wear a beautiful red dress with long rhinestone earrings to that holiday party—go buy it. I promise you that it is available in your size. If you decide that you really want to go dancing on New Year's Eve—plan on it and do it. There won't be any "Fat Police" at the door blocking your entrance. The only person that is blocking you from getting what you want is you. The key is to identify your desire as something you can have right now—and go after it.
3. See Your Body As Sexy Now: I know that this is a hard one when all we are fed are images of people who thin and sexy. But there is a lid for every pot and what I have found is that if you can't see yourself as sexy—no one else will either. So take the time to create your own sexiness for yourself. Take time with your self care. Do you need a new hair cut or style? If you are a woman—how about some new make up? Take yourself clothes shopping and pick out something that makes YOU feel good about YOU. Remember, when you go into a party or when you are meeting new people for the first time—everyone wants to be at their very best. So how brilliant can you shine if you make up your mind that tonight you are shining? Remember that thin people can FEEL just like you do inside. Thin people can feel insecure, lonely, and ugly.
If You Feel Sexy - You Will Be Sexy!
When you are having those moments where you feel like you are just too fat to have fun—please remember that fat people are not alone in feeling insecure. This can really be a choice. How are you going to take your precious, amazing self into each party and social situation? Set yourself up to shine—and see what happens. I bet you will be amazed at just how fabulous you are.
