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Sex: The More You Have - The More You Want?

"If you don't use it...you lose it". Have you ever heard that phrase? How about "The more you get - the more you want?" Have you noticed that the word "insatiable" goes so well with the word "desire"? Almost like peanut butter and jelly! Read More

This experience is New

This experience is New Relationship Energy. It's talked a lot a bout in polyamorous circles and it relates to exploring a new sexual relationship with ourselves just as much as exploring a new sexual relationship with another. It is a pretty awesome feeling but also can me overwhelming. The rest of our lives can go to hell in a hand basket if we aren't careful. It's a wondrous time to be enjoyed but but learning balance is important or we will have a bunch of messes to clean up when we come down a bit from the high. It's no fun to crash and burn. It good to spread this newfound energy and excitement into spicing up the "mundane" in our lives too. Scrubbing the toilet bowl and mopping the bathroom floor so the whole bathroom is really clean and sparkling sexy for those wonderful baths Pam is talking about. Also, it's learning to function in the midst of desire--keeping a balance with the raging desire we feel and experiencing a pervading peacefulness. That's desire without attachment. Desire is the creative force but if we are attached to the object of our desire it can play havoc in our lives. Nuff said for now. Thanks Pam!

This experience is New

This experience is New Relationship Energy. It's talked a lot a bout in polyamorous circles and it relates to exploring a new sexual relationship with ourselves just as much as exploring a new sexual relationship with another. It is a pretty awesome feeling but also can me overwhelming. The rest of our lives can go to hell in a hand basket if we aren't careful. It's a wondrous time to be enjoyed but but learning balance is important or we will have a bunch of messes to clean up when we come down a bit from the high. It's no fun to crash and burn. It good to spread this newfound energy and excitement into spicing up the "mundane" in our lives too. Scrubbing the toilet bowl and mopping the bathroom floor so the whole bathroom is really clean and sparkling sexy for those wonderful baths Pam is talking about. Also, it's learning to function in the midst of desire--keeping a balance with the raging desire we feel and experiencing a pervading peacefulness. That's desire without attachment. Desire is the creative force but if we are attached to the object of our desire it can play havoc in our lives. Nuff said for now. Thanks Pam!

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Are you saying to have

Are you saying to have hookups all the time to explore? I'm young..21 year old male and do not have sex that much because I'm gay..and out but I'm not famine at all and i find it hard to find anyone to explore with because I am uncomfortable with strangers and picky about who I'm "intimate" with. So is your article saying you should go have sex with anyone anytime?

Are you saying to have

Are you saying to have hookups all the time to explore? I'm young..21 year old male and do not have sex that much because I'm gay..and out but I'm not famine at all and i find it hard to find anyone to explore with because I am uncomfortable with strangers and picky about who I'm "intimate" with. So is your article saying you should go have sex with anyone anytime?

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Pamela Madsen is a fertility/sex educator, blogger, author of Shameless and founder of The American Fertility Association.

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