Shameless Woman

Pursuing an integrated life of sensuality, health, healing and rejuvenation

by Pamela Madsen

Spiritual Solutions: Answers to Life's Greatest Challenges

Recently, I noticed that my kids are entering adulthood just as I'm leaving it. My friend Lisa asked me where I am going, and to tell her the truth — I'm not exactly sure. But what I do believe, is something Deepak Chopra also believes: Change and transformation is your birth right. Read More

Who's Infertile? Us? Stop Ignoring Infertility

People can survive infertility, but it's time for them to thrive through infertility. This can only happen when all of us stop ignoring infertility. So let's raise our collective voices and speak the truth about infertility. Infertility is not a sign. A curse or a punishment. It's a disease that can be prevented, treated and cured. Read More

Even Feminists Enjoy Sexual Surrender

Rarely has a news magazine story generated as much intra-feminist flack as Katie Roiphe's Newsweek cover "The Fantasy Life of Working Women" that went live on the web yesterday. Within hours of its upload, women had their dukes up, aching to get in on the ‘who you callin’ anti-feminist’ smackdown. There is a lot of trash talkin’ going on. Read More

Claiming Responsibility for Our Own Female Desires: Spankings Included

One of the central aspects of sexual submission is that you can experience it without claiming responsibility, without committing to actually wanting it, which has a natural appeal to both our puritan past and our post-ironic present. Read More

Create Your Relationship Using The "DIS" Rubric (Desire, Intimacy and Sex)

Sex is not only about procreation, orgasm, genitals or nakedness. People report having incredibly sexy moments barely touching fingers and just feeling the charge of another person’s desire there. Sex is holding hands or cuddling or getting a massage. Sex is solo, paired, or in groups. It's about what is happening in your body right now. Read More

The Male Side of Baby-Making Sex

Those on the female side of the equation of "Baby-Making Sex" have little sympathy for the guys. After all, it is often the ladies who are the ones taking the medications, getting their blood drawn, having the pelvic exams, and experiencing mood swings. What do the guys have to do? Read More

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Sex

It’s fine for creatures of fiction to go off the deep end à la "Story of O” or “Beauty” in Anne Rice’s contribution to erotica and have nothing else to do but devote themselves utterly to sex. But real people, the ones who dare to step outside the sexual box, are in fact indistinguishable from everybody else. Read More

Unleashing the Power of Your Pelvis

What if it was possible to use your sexual energy not just for great sex, but to fuel other parts of your life like your career, fertility, or even crafty activities such as painting or cooking? It's all about harnessing the power of your pelvis, and then unleashing that energy right where you want it. Read More

Sex Education: It's Not Just For Teenagers Anymore

My mother once said to me that she didn't have to go to college to learn how to make a baby. What she was trying to say to me, is that she didn't have to go to school to learn how to have sex. That might be true on a basic level, but no one is born knowing everything about sex and what we get in high school is not that helpful as adults. Read More

Your Brain on Sex or Meditation

When you meditate, the left side of your brain becomes activated and when you engage in sexual activity, the right side of your brain runs the show. Both of these brain responses helps you to stop constant thinking or talking in your brain. Stilling the mind is where meditation meets sexual bliss. Read More

Lady Porn

So many women have asked me how to get their sexy on—in their own bodies. They want to know how they can turn themselves on. Do they need a partner? Can they relight their own pilot light with young children to raise, or a sexually stale relationship? It's the million dollar question; how can we raise our sexual desire up a notch or two? Read More

Perceptions on Conception: She Thinks It's All Her Responsibility

A recently released survey shows that women who are trying to get pregnant worry way more than their male partners, despite the fact that half of all fertility problems are due to the male or a combination of both female and male factors. Read More

Sperm Alert: What to Know When She Wants to Have a Baby!

Many men don't think a lot about their sperm until the baby-making tsunami takes over their lives. And even then, your sperm may not be on the top of your list of baby-making concerns. The first thing that may come to mind when the first rumbles of baby lust hits your radar might be worries about money, sleep, and your sex life. Read More

Redefining Marriage in America: The Unopen Yet Flexible Marriage

Ironically, it is the disclosure of Newt Gingrich's ex-wife, and the defensive embarrassment of the conservative Republican presidential hopeful that has taken the conversation of monogamy, monogamish, open marriage and polyamory into polite society. Read More

Tips for Surviving Monogamy

Sexual boredom and the lack of erotic fire is the main reason why some people reach outside of their long term relationship even though they are still happy on all other levels with their partner. Read More

Sexual CPR

Sexual CPR is about breathing new life into your erotic relationship. Finding a way to flame desire. Valentine's Day is a great excuse to take out the resuscitation paddles and apply with vigor. Read More

The Shaming of Paula Deen

The ruthless shaming of Paula Deen, a celebrity chef on the Food Network and so much more has been going on for weeks now, ever since she disclosed to the world that she had Type 2 Diabetes. What does this say about us? Is there something about someone being successful, happy and living into her passion that makes us just want to shout "Gotcha!"? Read More

Three Tips for Sexing Up "The Happy Enough" Yet Desire-less Marriage

"Do you believe that lost desire can be reclaimed? Specifically, in a long, happy enough marriage, where sexual desire and satisfaction used to exist, can we find a new way to pleasure when it's been gone for a while?" Read More

Are You Eating Your Sexual Desire?

Eating is accessible and provides an immediate rush of pleasure. Eating compulsively can also put us in a kind of trance state and numb us for what we may be really wanting. This does beg the question: "Why are we substituting food for sex?" Read More

Food Porn

When we eat consciously, slowly and with great intention —using the same intentions that we can use when having mind blowing, gourmet sex, eating can bring us the same kind of pleasure when done right. Read More

My Master, My Scale

I hate weighing myself. I hate my scale. My relationship with my scale has never been a good one. It is my demonic Dom. We have played a game of non-consensual S/M for as long as I can remember. Read More

Cultivating The Ability To Stay in 2012

One of my biggest lessons in being resilient and successful in my love life, friendships, career choices, and even conquering addiction—has been cultivating my own ability "to stay". Read More

Sexy Gifts To Buy Your Mom (Why Not?)

I learn the most amazing things on Facebook. It might not be a scientific journal, or published survey, but it is a way of seeing what is going on in our culture. And apparently, the willingness to see mom as having a sex life is trending! Read More

Dropping The "F" Bomb: FAT

When did fat become such a dirty word that the use of the word "fat" was more alarming to some of my readers than the practice of "hogging"? Read More

My Botox Birthday

I am coming out. I have turned fifty, and I love Botox its kissing cousin Dysport. Both Botox and Dysport do the same thing—they get rid of what I personally find so annoying, those deep creases in my forehead and between my brows that seem to have appeared over night on that landmark birthday. Read More

Are Fat Women Sexual Targets? Exposing the Practice of "Hogging"

How many fat women allow sexual touch because they feel that they should feel grateful for the attention of any man, even if it is a man that they don't desire? How many men go "hogging?" This little known practice of seeking out fat women they view as "easy targets?" Read More