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A Billion Wicked Thoughts discusses its author's independent analysis of 55 million sex-related Google searches. I agree with critics who say the project is flawed. But I believe it would be foolish to ignore the author's ambitious theory of sexual motivation, or the huge and unique data set that supports it. Read More

It's noteworthy that human sexual suffering so often seems to involve narcissistic wounds, rather than simply missed opportunities for pleasure. The link between sexuality and ordinary human self-love is a deep subject. Read More

Much of what's written about sexual psychology is still "unisex." This diminishes its value for clinicians in the office. And for patients in the bedroom. Read More

Many men complain that their wives seem to want "everything." Many contemporary women worry about this too. They wonder whether it's OK to "want it all." Read More

The open marriage movement of the 1970’s quietly wound down when it encountered AIDS and Reaganism. There are signs of its revival in the Internet era. But it won't be the same. Read More

Shakespeare, in his Sonnets, famously imagined three strategies for escaping death: creating art, having children, and loving deeply. It's a tribute to sex that it can sometimes be involved in at least two out of those three. Read More

Sex requires leisure time. But for most people I see in my Manhattan office, the idea of leisure time is just a quaint memory. What to do when you're too tired or busy to have sex? Read More

Let's continue to wrestle with what Jonathan Franzen in a recent New York Times essay called "the problems of actual love" - including the challenge of relating to someone who, unlike a piece of electronic equipment, was not designed to meet our needs. Read More

But is male sexuality really that simple? Only when it's limited to clicking images on a screen. In bed with a partner, your average man needs other things as well. He needs to feel valued. Appreciated. Accepted. And yes, desired. Sometimes people forget this. Read More

The authors propose that (1) men's and women's sexual minds function quite differently, and that (2) both are fundamentally rather simple in their goals and in how they operate. Both proposals are sure to annoy many professional communities concerned with sexuality. Read More

The images that one wife found on her husband's computer recently were especially shocking. Her first thought when she found them was, "This is the end of our marriage." Her next thought was, "This is the end of civilization." Read More

When I ask a man with erection troubles what medications he's taking, occasionally the answer comes back, "Only Propecia -- for hair loss." It's a sad moment. Many men don't seem to know that Propecia can cause loss of erections and loss of desire. Read More

Are humans more like bonobos or chimpanzees?   Well, our romantic movies tend to be more bonobo-like.  But our battered womens' shelters bear witness to a chimpanzee-like tendency. Read More

At a recent informal meeting to discuss his new book Sex at Dawn with a group of New York City sex therapists, psychologist Chris Ryan played us a videotape showing a bonobo orgy. Read More