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14 Ways to Observe Pornography Awareness Week

FBI: sexual violence has DECREASED since internet porn flooded America.

Coinciding with the horrors of Halloween is Pornography Awareness Week.

Sponsored by groups including Concerned Women for America (CWA) and Morality in Media (MiM), the goal of the week is "to educate the public about the extent of the pornography problem and what can constitutionally be done about it." These are powerful groups lobbying Washington and state capitols to adapt Biblical principles for governing, and to weaken what they label the "so-called separation between church and state."

Their suggested activities for the Week include urging the Attorney General to enforce obscenity laws; demanding that convenience stores stop selling X-rated mags or DVDs; and pressuring presidential candidates to promise to prosecute "illegal pornography."

They also pledge to "raise awareness" of how pornography harms every single person in every single community. In other words, their goal is to lie, cheat, misinform, frighten, confuse, and manipulate. Unfortunately, they've been very successful. One strategy is the White Ribbons Against Pornography (WRAP)--literally wearing white ribbons to invite conversation about pornography. (They presumably considered but discarded the White Garter Belt Campaign.)

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I totally agree with the idea behind WRAP. I support increasing everyone's awareness of pornography use in this country: how many people watch it, who these people typically are, how it affects them and their relationships, how pornographers work hard to screen out underage performers, what Americans' rights are regarding possession of erotic material, etc.

Of course, I have a fact-based approach to this phenomenon rather than WRAP's emotional, say-anything-to-get-people-to-stop approach, so I propose a different set of activities to observe Pornography Awareness Week.

To counter the obscene lies that our media and legislators will be hearing this week, perhaps you could do one (or more!) of the following:

* If you use porn, talk about it with your partner.
* Thank the clerk in your local convenience store for carrying porn magazines or DVDs.
* Thank your local hotel for carrying pay-for-porn, even if you personally have never stayed there. Alternatively, write to a national chain that carries pay-for-porn (and has been bullied about it by groups like Citizens for Community Values), such as Marriott or Westin.
* Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper explaining that most people who use porn have no problem with it.
* Write about this on your own blog. Tweet about it: "I use porn and my sex life is fine," or "I use porn and my sex life isn't very good--but it has nothing to do with porn."
* Invite your partner to share her/his concerns about porn with you.
* Instead of a White Ribbon, wear a Plaid Ribbon. When people ask, say it's for Porn Awareness Week and your gratitude for the First Amendment.
* Start a conversation with someone: "Did you know that the Bill of Rights says NOTHING about exempting porn, obscenity, or indecency from our Freedom of Speech?
* Send a few bucks to the ACLU, National Coalition Against Censorship or Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance. They protect your right to read, watch, and jack off to whatever adult material you like.
* Write your mayor or governor reminding them that you vote--and that you have no problem with porn.
* Memorize this fact: in the real world, porn is NOT connected with violence against women, child molestation, or divorce. In fact, the FBI says these problems have all declined since the country was flooded with internet porn in 2000.
* Memorize this fact: the adult industry NEVER knowingly creates or distributes child porn. They're smart business people, not clueless idiots. The government has only identified two underage performers in professional films--both of whom produced sophisticated false identification--in over twenty-five years.
* Memorize this fact: using porn does NOT cause brain damage, erectile dysfunction, or loss of sexual interest in one's mate. Other things do that, but not porn. Any claim to the contrary is junk science.
* Use some. Guilt-free.

Bonus: What to say to people who say that pornography causes most of America's problems.

* "Of course some rapists and wife-beaters use pornography. So do 50,000,000 other Americans, and it doesn't make them rape or beat anyone."
* "Of course some people watch way too much porn. Other people watch way too much football, reality TV, or the Weather Channel. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with any of them."
* "Porn doesn't make men withdraw from their wives and girlfriends. Men withdraw for a variety of reasons. No pictures or stories can compete with a satisfying sexual & emotional relationship with a live person."

Marty Klein is a certified sex therapist and licensed psychotherapist. He has written five books and 200 articles about sex; his TV appearances include 20/20 andNightline. more...

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