Sex at Dawn

It seems like you are blaming women "it's available so men go for it"

It's like saying "if their legs weren't open, men would practice fidelity"

It's also like saying "A Man has no control over his penis"

REALLY? Chauvinist, sexist, and not giving the male species enough credit. Try again.

It was actually George Leigh Mallory who was quoted as saying "Because it is there" when asked about why he wanted to climb Mount Everest. Sir Edmund Hillary was the first to actually scale the mountain. It is a common misquote.

It is easy to say men cheat because of chemical imbalances or some such thing but as a middle aged man i can give some insight as to the biggest reason . I have never ceated on my wife not that I havent been tempted but i havent . People dont just grow old together they grow apart also without knowing it . Most couples who have had children tend to lose each other after the children have left home . Most times we dont see it until it is too late . After the children have left one spouse will be looking for that spark to rekindle but the other will be looking for something or someone who they feel needs them as a mother or father figure .This is mostly found when people become attached to pets or on line friends or even grandchlidren . The other spouse now feels left out of their spouese life .
Many times the wife wont realise that she is ignoring the emotional needs of the husband . If he brings it up most times the wife will not fully listen and pay little heed to his being open with her . So at first he seeks someone who will listen to his needs and offer a shoulder but then many times this will lead further . The wife in the meantime will be shocked and not understand that her actions or inactions were the leading cause of his infidelity .
We need to learn to listen and most importantly make time to be with each other as we get older . Being intimate later in life is more important then when we are younger .

I am so tired of the male stereo typing...
Women are NO better than men in this department...
I was married to a woman for over 15 yrs and she screwed around any chance she got.....

When I finally left her 4 yrs ago I am noticing that women practically throw themselves at you... I have way more opportunities than I ever had when I was single in my twenties...

I was a bartender for a few years and can say that women are just as bad to the sexual come-ons and touching...

I hate articles like this that feed into the OPRAH-stereo typical men bashing crap...

We are humans driven by human desires... It's the BRAIN upstairs that knows the difference and NO one gets an excuse...
Cheating is cheating no matter what and you can never change them

PEACE

I can understand that men like their testosterone, but I'm curious why they don't look into other ways to ramp it up that don't involve traumatizing & alienating children and leaving them looking ridiculous to others?

I found the book "Passionate Marriage." by David Snarch, helpful in explaining for how sexual performance in men as they lose testosterone can be greatly helped by the man learning emotional availability (in the event he was deprived of this by his parents or the social pressures in childhood to become a hyper-competitive man who does not know his emotions). And I suspect that improved sexual performance boosts testosterone?

This then allows the "soul-visibility" and "soul-mating" that many men want, including apparently John Perry Barlow, the author of the "short essay" referred to in the post.

And, as Passionate Marriage also points out, you can't get to "soul-mating" without monogamy; the partners will have too much anxiety and mistrust to be emotionally bare with each other.

I can understand that men like their testosterone, but I'm curious why they don't look into other ways to ramp it up that don't involve traumatizing & alienating children and leaving them looking ridiculous to others?

I found the book "Passionate Marriage." by David Snarch, helpful in explaining for how sexual performance in men as they lose testosterone can be greatly helped by the man learning emotional availability (in the event he was deprived of this by his parents or the social pressures in childhood to become a hyper-competitive man who does not know his emotions). And I suspect that improved sexual performance boosts testosterone?

This then allows the "soul-visibility" and "soul-mating" that many men want, including apparently John Perry Barlow, the author of the "short essay" referred to in the post.

And, as Passionate Marriage also points out, you can't get to "soul-mating" without monogamy; the partners will have too much anxiety and mistrust to be emotionally bare with each other.

How ought men maintain high levels of testosterone as they age? My father has been affected by low testosterone for years since he has been on blood pressure medication. He has been using a salve to supplement his testosterone, but still seems to have low affect and can rarely get excited. While I don't advocate that he has an affair, is there a healthy, non supplement way to increase testosterone?

While there are explanations for overeating, one shouldn't try to excuse it, or worse, become an enabler.