Women should expect to at least receive empowering common sense advice from their own magazines. Yet Cosmopolitan Magazine has proclaimed that "along with not wearing white after Labor Day and waiting for a guy to ask you out, you can add 'Don't have sex on the first date' to the list of rules that are now considered one hundred percent outdated." Who cares if the stranger you sleep with is a stalker, longs for the good old days of the Soviet Union, has every sexually transmitted disease in the book, is an ex-con, or lives with his mother? Why get to know him first? You need to live!
Cosmo isn't the only women's magazine foisting up chocolate covered poison to their female readers. Marie Claire trumpeted in a series on "Love at First Sight" how each woman who engaged in an impulsive relationship based on physical attraction and charm believed it would work for them, even if it went against all objective reason. Sadly, women writers and editors are promoting a philosophy that these mirage relationships are romantic and heroic, like living out a Harlequin novel. So what if they ultimately fail—you are dating and mating boldly and recklessly!
Unfortunately for Cosmo and Marie Claire, binding men and women together in marriages and cohabitations who wouldn't otherwise be friends is destructive. Often all these couples share in common is a name, an address or children.These are the shallowest of shallow relationships. These flimsy unions are not the place to raise children who, according to social science research, do best when they have two parents present in the home who love each other and are committed to the family. Yet the women writers and editors have come to accept that these mirage unions are the best that can be expected in this world.