Charlotte Lieberman has written a highly controversial article for this Valentine's Day in this month's Cosmopolitan Magazine about the state of love and romance in 2014 American college campuses. She reports that the system of college dating "is broken." She quotes Occidental College Sociology Professor Lisa Wade that today's young college women are "approaching casual sex with a stereotypical masculine attitude"...of what Dr. Michael Kimmel termed "no fears, no doubts, no vulnerabilities." Ms. Lieberman observes that, although a study by New York University Sociologist Paula England determined that both college men and women had roughly the same hopes that a hook up would turn into something more, the outward behavior is to hide that loving way. There seems to be a norm on college campuses across the country that being vulnerable and needing somebody is to be a weak and pathetic loser. She concludes that when it comes to modern heterosexual relationships in 2014, "whoever cares less, wins."
Author Barbara Dafoe Whitehead has written extensively about the rise of "Chick Lit", which she defined as popular fiction "obsessively devoted to one theme: smart young women's frustrations with men and dating relationships." The character Carrie Bradshaw wondered a decade ago in the "Chick Lit" favorite "Sex In The City" about the then-emerging hook up culture, "Have women evolved into not having any feelings?" On campus today that prophecy appears to have come true, at least outwardly, according to Charlotte Lieberman.