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It's not only Muslims who are

It's not only Muslims who are still doing arranged husband and I come from recently immigrated families from the same tiny country in southeastern Europe. One relative made an introduction, and voila! The vetting was done. Not that I expect an easy ride or perfection, but I know what I'm getting. There's no room for phony behavior because everyone around us knows us so well.
I did the dating thing before, so I know exactly what's there...just because some things in the past were bad doesn't mean we need to reject everything!

A question: How?

I have been reading your blog for some time, and it seems there is sense in some of your arguments.

However, for a blog called "Repairing Relationships," you are woefully short on any recommendations as to ways to do better than the current status quo you describe in such disparaging terms.

Now that we know how things are not working, what are we to do, pray tell?

Good question!

Once the reader realizes there is a problem in the very structure of American courtship and marriage we recommend they read our book "The Tiger Woods Syndrome". In it we devote half our book to recommendations as to break away from a lifestyle of unhealthy romance and have two chapters specifically devoted to concrete ways to do better than the current status quo of unsatisfying heterosexual relationships.


If those are my only two choices I will remain single and work to build loving reciprocal relationships without the commitment of marriage.

There is a third choice

Choose Health!

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J.R. Bruns, M.D., is co-author of The Tiger Woods Syndrome, a book about repairing relationships.


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