Your lights are on, but you're not home
Your will is not your own
You're heart sweats, your teeth grind
Another kiss and you'll be mine
Whoa, you like to think that you're immune to the stuff, oh yeah
It's closer to the truth to say you can't get enough
You know you're gonna have to face it, you're addicted to love
Why is breaking up so hard to do? Marie Ellis reports that Dr. Rene Hurlemann, executive senior physician from Bonn (Germany) University Medical Center and his research team, in collaboration with researchers from Ruhr University of Bochum (Germany) and the University of Chengdu (China), have found that the hormone oxytocin that is secreted by the brain is to blame.
Dr. Hurlemann reports that their research on male subjects in committed relationships suggests that oxytocin is "similar to a drug" for couples in a permanent relationship. As the couples remain in the relationship they receive a steady suppy of oxytocin which the researchers found triggered the reward system in the brain causing them to perceive their partner as attractive. Dr. Hurlemann noted that "this could also explain why people fall into depression or deep mourning after a separation from their partner: due to the lack of oxytocin secretion, the reward system is understimulated, and is more or less in a withdrawal state."