23 year old actress Erin Wotherspoon wowed the blogosphere this week with her admission that she is a romantic freeloader. "I've got a pretty face and a pretty extensive Urban Spoon wishlist. We all know that getting what you want in life can be tough. Which is why I've decided to let someone else finance my dreams. My dream? To eat in pretty restaurants without costing me a penny," Erin confided in her personal blog.
Extreme? Sure. But Erin serves as a good example of a general trend. For men to grasp the concept of the unusual case of Erin, they must understand that generally speaking, women do not like to be alone. There are formal dances, holiday parties, office and family get-togethers, club, debutante and sorority functions and Friday and Saturday date nights that demand an escort. They simply need somebody to be that guy. They may even decide you are boyfriend material, but if you don't make the cut for the part-time or permanent position, they will begin to look elsewhere for suitable candidates. They may be still dating you, but that loving feeling is slip sliding away.
Adolescent boys and men need to understand that taking someone to the Homecoming dance or a nightclub doesn't mean true love forever. Accept the concept that 99% of your dates will end up short of matrimony or a long-term relationship and enjoy them for what they are—a chance to go out, have a fine evening, polish up your conversation and dancing skills and live for the moment.