Dr. John Gray, author of the mega-hit book "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", has a new book out this week called "Work With Me", exploring the differences in communication between men and women.He has some very helpful observations that can be easily applied to daily life both at home and at the office. So many marriages short-circuit after the thrill of the honeymoon fades into memory. The challenges of working as a team to accomplish goals are often insurmountable due to clashes never addressed during courtship. Likewise, men and women thrown together in a business often have trouble collaborating in the boardroom. Dr. Gray says a big factor in this dissonance is due to the fact that women process information in a diverse way than men. This sex difference plays out in communication in several interesting ways.
Dr. Gray's research found that 50% of women don't feel appreciated by men, while 90% of men think they are appreciating women. Dr. Gray urges men to overcome this perceptual disconnect by taking the extra time and effort to find out what the women are doing and let women express themselves. Men tend to assume that just because a woman is silent that she has no opinion or observations. They don't realize that women are processing a large amount of information. That leads women to feel their contribution to the home or office isn't appreciated, leading to resentment and a downward spiral in relationships.