The great frustration for couples is how to keep the newness and excitement in their marriage or cohabitation. But according to UC Riverside Professor of Psychology Sonja Lyubomirsky, passion peaks in a marriage after two years and then diminishes. Her research found that after the two year summit things are never the same.
Relationship experts like Susie and Otto Collins view this phenomenon of the two year Honeymoon fade as the cause of relationship problems. But in fact sexual passion can be masking the serious relationship problems that commonly exist in heterosexual unions established on the specious values of physical attraction, charm and approval seeking. Best selling author John Gray observed that resentment is temporarily washed away for men when they enjoy regular sexual relations in a committed heterosexual union. As the passion of a new marriage or cohabitation fades, the fact that the man and woman might be just a teensy bit of a mismatch starts to become more significant.
In reality, the honeymoon is a mirage.
Engaged couples in the 1800s practiced candor in their courtship and were socially active with both men and women, maintaining balance in their lives. In fact, the original honeymoon was a bridal trip that included friends and relatives. The bride in the 1800s knew what the groom and his friends were really like.