"It had to be you
It had to be you
I wandered around
And finally found the somebody who
Could make me be true, could make me be blue,
And even be glad, just to be sad, thinking of you."
The idea of the "soul mate" has permeated American society. American movies, songs and television shows celebrate the idea that there is that special someone for us destined by Fate who was made for us and will make us complete. The religious among us are especially vulnerable to this notion, although there is no scriptural basis for it in the Old or New Testament. But even the non-religious have been known to fall for the idea that there is someone out there who will provide the intimacy, companionship and understanding they have always yearned for.
The problem with the idea of the soul mate is that the notion is so subjective, emotional and epheremal. Infatuation can delude a couple into thinking they have found their soul mate when they are practically strangers and propel a weak liason by two lovers based on physicial attraction, charm and approval seeking into irreversible commitment.
A study by University of Virginia Sociologist Brad Wilcox supports this view that the myth of the soul mate may indeed be harmful to America. Professor Wilcox found that over 60% of men and women in the USA believe in soul mates, but these true believers are 150% more likely to divorce that the romantic sceptic.