The wire services were buzzing today with the story of a dentist who has been searching for a woman he spoke to for two minutes in a cafe last summer. Although he doesn't know her name or anything else about her, and only asked her for directions, he has made finding his dream girl his life's work.
In high school we saw this syndrome played out again and again when kids from one high school would declare the boys and girls at another high school much more desireable. It represented our immaturity. We would rather fantasize about what the people were like that we didn't know that try to flesh out real relationships with the people we knew well. It was easier to fixate on the physical beauty and superficial charm of strangers than deal with the foibles of those we spent hours with every day.
Unfortunately we see millions of grown men practicing this immaturity long after graduation from high school, predicating courtship and marriage on physical beauty and charm. Many men treat dating and mating in the stereotypical male method of shopping for clothes on a weekend morning- they find the first thing that fits and rush home to watch the football game. Only later will they notice if the colors clash.