Nationally syndicated columnist Betsy Hart, author of the provocative new book "From the Hart", set tongues wagging on the network interview circuit this week with her politically incorrect advice to women: make a vow not to sleep with men like George Clooney who are confirmed bachelors. She warns women to not settle for live in boyfriends when they really want a husband. Hart said in an interview that "women are afraid to ask for marriage and commitment. That's the stuff that we as women are wired to want, and yet our culture says we can't ask for that, that we shouldn't expect that in a relationship." Hart says that women are giving their live-in boyfriends "the benefits of a sense of having a wife without having the commitment of marriage."http://www.christianpost.com/news/women-should-stop-sleeping-with-george-clooney-types-says-author-69361/
Our advice is a little less blunt. Each individual woman first needs to decide what they want: a short term fling or a long term mature relationship which may lead to marriage. Women need to realize that they are in control. If you decide that you really want at this point in your life is a long term mature relationship, there is no need to rush into a romance. Taking your time weeds out the sociopaths who seem exciting and fun at first blush. Get to know your potential partner's interests and values in an atmosphere that isn't pressurized to artificially lead to further commitment. Immerse yourself as much as possible with his friends and family, as they are a mirror of what he is really like when he isn't trying to impress you. Most importantly, maintain your spiritual relationship with yourself instead of losing yourself in the dopamine high of infatuation. Unless your work on your issues you may recreate them with your partner. Finally, set boundaries that keep you safe and comfortable, and enjoy the adventure.