Repairing Relationships

But it also allows us to regain a focus on why we are in the relationship in the first place, and what's worth fighting for. That's what we're about at www.getoverabrokenheart.org. It's not as cheesy as it sounds :)

for a man or woman to see if the prior relationship was based on physical attraction and charm instead of shared values and common interests, character and compatible personalities. Then they can take solid steps to prevent themselves from repeating the same problems in the next relationship.

We recommend that a person first schedule a physical evaluation to rule out undiagnosed medical conditions like diabetes and hyperthyroidism that can affect behavior. Then we recommend a psychiatric evaluation to rule out conditions like bipolar or anxiety disorders, depression, impulse control disorders and other mood disorders that can be treated.

The key to healing a wounded spirit is the rediscovery of the true self that may have been hidden for years. Specific addictions, codependency and character defects should be addressed in individual psychiatric therapy as well as Twelve Step tradition support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous.

The goal of this therapy is to learn new behaviors and maintain a healthy lifestyle free of substance abuse or other behavioral compulsions that keep the person from feeling and being the best partner they can be. Switching from a life of deception to rigorous honesty and being capable of feeling a whole rainbow of emotions beside rage is the great way to prepare yourself for life beyond divorce.