There are men in America who are not deceptive. They have a clear idea of who they are and what they want out of life. They are an endangered species in a culture that churns out cinematic masterpieces like "Friends With Benefits", promoting the superficial values of physical attraction and charm as a basis of a relationship.
Bill, a corporate executive, lives the healthy values discussed on this blog. He entered college as the rarest of freshmen, the type who had already thoroughly scouted the university scene and had decided exactly what academic and extracurricular campus activities he would participate in without overdoing it.
Bill brought a similar logic to his social life. He had high visibility as a participant in student government, the marching band and his fraternity. He used his connections in those social circles to survey a wide variety of dates. Unlike his peers, he did not seem driven to have one long-term steady girlfriend. He kept himself relatively commitment-free to so that he could use the opportunity college presents to meet a cross-section of women from across the state.
Eventually Bill developed a dating relationship his senior year with Ellen. They seemed completely incompatible at first glance. While Bill was Expressive yell-leader type, the analytical Ellen would stand back out of the glare of the klieg lights and let him drink in the attention. She was not threatened by his campus celebrity status and his extroverted need to dominate the social scene. He was comfortable being himself and didn't tone it down to please Ellen. She was given the opportunity to accept or reject the real Bill, knowing he would always be the life of the party.
Bill had learned from dating a wide variety of women that he didn't get along with fellow Expressives. Instead of enjoying each other, they would end up competing for the spotlight. For Bill, compatibility in a mate meant he needed an introvert who would appreciate his theatrical talents instead of trying to top them. Meanwhile, Ellen had discovered through her dating past that she valued the fun and excitement of the Expressive personality and she could make allowances for the flakiness.
In addition to compatible personalities, Bill and Ellen share a core of common interests including worldview, politics, religion and sports. As they dated, they slowly fleshed out complementary and supportive roles as a couple. Bill and Ellen seemed so different from the typical college couples that soar like meteors across the summer night sky, only to burn out after a burst of honeymoon glory. Bill and Ellen found the way to healthy dating and marriage.
