Much of the current stalker phenomenon is based on ignorance. Mirage men have no idea that popular and skillful women may cultivate several future beaus even as they date their current boyfriend. In our book we refer to this as the sine curve of dating.
Mirage men are encouraged by music, movies and television to put way too much emotional stock in a simple dating relationship. They are shocked and wounded by the fact that as the current relationship ends these women may have another man waiting in the wings, at the threshold of another dating relationship. This simple truth needs to be communicated to boys as they enter adolescence.
Mirage men don't understand that the purpose of dating is to determine compatibility. Instead they pretend they've found their soul mate for life. They are more interested in the idea of you than the real you. Women need to understand this concept so they can nip a stalking relationship at the bud. Rushing into a romance with a virtual stranger can lead to possessive relationships with men who may be mentally ill or simply believe the media myth that persistence will win them a mate.