World famous actor and Oscar-wining filmmaker Mel Gibson is a great example of the misogynist mirage man in the fifth stage of Tiger Woods Syndrome (known as Resigned Compliance). When a man buries his true self to win the relationship, there is a tremendous cost to him personally. A deep-seated resentment smolders within his heart at this sacrifice of self for love. As a result, a steady corrosion of the couple's once steamy hot romance occurs over time. Once the thrill of the Honeymoon stage of Tiger Woods Syndrome fades, the partners are stuck with a stranger they often don't even like as a friend.
In the Resigned Compliance stage we see the inherent weakness of obtaining a relationship based of physical attraction, charm and approval seeking. The mirage man is expected to live his phony persona of courtship for the rest of his life. But the pain of living with someone of few common interests or goals, differing world view and clashing temperaments will become acute. Physical intimacy will lose it's pain-killing potency as the relational differences come creeping out from beyond the shadows into the light of day. Soon the irritation and pain become greater than the prize.
The mirage man will realize he has committed himself to a life of obligation. It was easy to put up with the three hour opera and carriage ride in the park when the evening culminated in fresh, sweet intimacy, but now the healing balm of love is dying. It becomes harder and harder for the mirage man to stifle his tastes and feelings when they receive a diminishing reward. The inherent conflicts in the relationship become harder for the mirage man to ignore as the thrill of the physical aspect of the relationship wanes.
The day-to-day grind of the living a role that isn't genuine leaves both the misogynist and the compliant mirage man feeling weary, oppressed and resentful. Eventually the techniques the misogynist mirage man used early in the relationship to vent anger no longer work.The once passionate relationship begins a slow steady slide towards estrangement as the woman becomes aware that something is amiss and will slowly withdraw physically from her man. She will find her efforts to communicate her concern over the union cut short by her emotionally-frozen and resentful mate. The well of anger deep within the misogynist mirage man will increase as the physical union with his partner declines.
The relationship shifts from one of romance to one of conflict.The misogynist mirage man who has pretended to be Prince Charming to gain the relationship will now explode in his pent up hatred of all womanhood. He becomes fed up with pretending and kowtowing to her every whim. His real, woman-hating self emerges. As Oksana Grigorieva has learned, there is no basis for a relationship with a misogynist mirage man like Mel Gibson who threatens you with physical violence. It's equally sad that Gibson's long-suffering first wife Robyn Moore wasted over twenty-eight years and had seven children with him.
Let's learn from Oksana and Robyn's sad experience. Character, not good looks and charm, really matters in romance.
