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Living and Thriving as a Young Person with Cancer

What Is Fear

The day I found out what true fear genuinely feels like came later, at age 30. It didn’t come in the form of a movie, or a girl. It came in the form of being diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. Read More

As a medical professional

As a medical professional myself, I am sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I also applaud your positive attitude, in general terms. However, what do you do with the fact that current scientific research indicates that positive attitude has no effect on survival rates or length of life after a terminal diagnosis?

I guess one could say that having positive emotion might improve the quality of remaining life, at least. But does it really? I know that you are saying that you are not in denial ... but isn't having a positive attitude in the face of terminal diagnosis the very definition of being in denial? Negative emotion, if it is realistic, is not always maladaptive.

Thanks for your comment and

Thanks for your comment and support, it means a lot!

Although I completely understand your point, I also (as I'm sure are you) am very aware that scientific research evolves over time. If you looked at research say 50 years ago about the effects of cigarettes, that research is very different then vs. now. My point is I would almost guarantee that as we become more aware of the power of our mind, and in particular, the connection between our mind and our health, that research will change.

I choose to stay positive, I choose to see and focus on things I can control, and it has helped me heal every single day since being diagnosed. Mindfulness has a huge part in my life, and will only become a larger part of 'medicine' going forward, in my opinion.

But hey, that's my approach, and I believe it is the only one to have, and will help me win! Again, thank you for your support!

Encouragement for Alex

You gooooo Alex...and know that thousands and thousands of people stand beside you, in your journey!
WHATEVER your positivity and focus do for you medically, know that your choice of attitude is incredibly uplifting and inspiring to those around you! XXOO

Thank you SO much for your

Thank you SO much for your words and support. I'm glad those who are around me are finding this story uplifting and inspiring - I intend on keeping that way!!

You may not remember me,

You may not remember me, Alex, but I was one of the counselors back in your Boehm days. I still remember your amazing smile and optimistic attitude about all things middle school! I am so sorry about your diagnosis and subsequent battle, but truly believe that good has the capacity to come out of all trials. You appear to have made the choice to face the big C with optimism, hope and determination. The book, Love, Medicine and Miracles certainly speaks to your personal outlook. I do believe that it is critical to healing and longevity.

Chuck Long mentioned the possibility of asking you to speak with some of the students at Boehm next Fall to share your story and the impact of one's perspective on life's circumstances. If you are interested, I can certainly discuss the possibility with our principal. I will follow you on Facebook and am counting on sharing the blessings of your journey. Linda

Thank you for your words and

Thank you for your words and support, means a lot! I agree with you, and know that good will come out on top! Love, Medicine, and Miracles is a go to for me, and I'd like to think I'd be a highlighted story in it.

An important message here, I'd welcome speaking to anyone, I hope that spreading awareness and sharing a good, positive story can help others.

Speak soon, thank you again!

Best,
Alex

". . . the only thing we have to fear is . . . fear itself . . . " ~ President Franklin D. Roosevelt (March 4, 1933 inaugural address)

Niles, writing about your life experiences, including battling cancer, is an important part of self-healing and helps others to explore their own emotions and circumstances.

"Sharing is caring." ~ Frank Michel

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Alex Niles is a writer who was diagnosed with Stage IV gastric cancer in 2013, at the age of 30.

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