Many women I know with sons and/or grandsons, including those who identify strongly with feminism, seem much more likely to care about what happens to American males than those without such a deep and loving connection. Read More
The generic term “rock star” didn’t come out of nowhere. It is the ultimate, at least for guys. We might hear someone referred to as a rock star in the legal world, but do we ever hear of a great rock musician referred to as a “top lawyer in rock!”?
What is it that characterizes an a-hole? I think more than anything else it is an insensitivity to the feelings of other people; it’s a kind of forgetting that we live in a world where we coexist with others and that what we do and say affects them. Read More
Today, of course, the term is “hyperactive” or, more completely, ADHD (“attention deficit hyperactivity disorder”), and it is more frequently applied to children – boys, in particular – than it is to adults. Had I grown up in the 1990s or ’00s rather than in the ’40s and ’50s, I probably would have been put on some kind of medication. Read More
In the developed world, girls and young women are far surpassing boys and young men in school. Actually, this gap was obvious in 1999; but almost no one was listening then. Sadly, few people are listening even now — nearly 15 years later — when the data is overwhelming. Read More
Interestingly, social psychologists have found that we make the fundamental attribution error (or FAE, as I have never heard it called) about other people and rarely ourselves. When we do things, we always have a good reason. It’s other people we see as defective. Read More
Transhumanism is the strongly held hypothesis that evolution need not stop with human beings as we are currently constructed, but that, with the use of nanotechnology, life forms -- combined with technological enhancements -- are possible that go beyond human. Read More
You know all this great talk about how everyone is living so much longer, how the 80s are the new 30s, and all that stuff? Well, this is all well and good, but there’s a group that is suffering as they deal with this, and that group is the children of these aging pre-baby-boomers who have the nerve to live into their 90s and the triple digits.
"Hmmm," the speaker said. "...Actually that's a good point. I never thought about it that way. I guess sexual objectification can go both ways, even if it is usually women who are objectified. Thanks." Read More
I walked into my friend’s living room, in which there sat four other professors and a short, immediately identifiable man, who stood up, put out his hand, and said, “Paul Simon.”
It seemed odd for him to say this, for of course he was Paul Simon. But what else could he say?
Envy has always been a problem for me. As such, it joins my other problems, such as worry, OCD, procrastination, and my concern over eating foods with too much sugar and salt rather than sticking to shredded wheat and carrots. Read More
There is, in normal aging, “loss of physical vigor; vision impairments, such as sensitivity to glare; hearing losses; more fragile bones due to loss of calcium; and some memory loss.”
Now what was I saying? Oh yes... Read More
Before beginning this brief discussion of marriage, I have to make a couple of disclaimers. First, none of what I say here necessarily has anything to do with my own marriage, which is as close to perfect as any could be. Second, I am not a therapist or couples counselor. Read More
The modern women’s movement didn’t even begin until the mid-1960s. So the real test [re obituary space] will be about people born, say, in the 1940s and ’50s, and they won’t be dropping like flies until 2025 or so. So couldn’t we at least wait until then to get upset about the dead gender gap? Read More
There’s an old hit song by Captain and Tenille called “Love Will Keep Us Together.” Great song, but as a guideline for a lasting marriage, I’m afraid it doesn’t cut it. Love will get you together, and it will surely help keep you together, but enjoying a marriage that lasts for decades, requires something else. In a word, I’d call it thoughtfulness. Read More
The date on my first page of notes from the class is September 23, 1963. I was not quite 21 years old, and, having had my first psychology course only a year earlier, I was clearly in over my head. But still, I am forever grateful to have had the opportunity to have sat in a small seminar with one of the greatest minds in the history of psychology. Read More
I realize that women have still not achieved full equality -- whether in terms of salary or position. But if one considers Americans under the age of 25 (and probably even going up to 30), there is little question that it is boys and young men who are lagging.
I had an epiphany 20 years ago, when the youngest of my three sons was 12. I suddenly realized that feminist attacks on men, which I had heard repeatedly for years, were truly attacks on my children. This was the moment I began to do everything I could on behalf of boys. Read More
The key is for parents of boys to wholeheartedly support a movement for their sons with the same passion that mothers (and fathers) of daughters supported one that has helped to thrust their children into the forefront of achievement in today’s world. We have left half our children behind, and this cannot be good for America’s future.
It was hard for me to hear talk of grandchildren when I so much wanted one. At a party, when a couple of friends starting talking excitedly about their grandchildren, I couldn't stand it. I simply walked out of the room. Read More
How things have changed since I was young! When my first child was born, way back in 1964, fathers were not allowed -- or certainly not told they were allowed -- to be in the delivery room. The mother, however, was allowed to be there, in fact, encouraged Not only that, they weren't doing ultrasounds, so you really didn't know the baby's sex until it was born. Read More
By 1993 my focus within gender issues had almost entirely shifted. I became obsessed by the fact that boys and young men, in spite of their so obviously falling behind, were not getting much attention at all. Read More
What gets me, what I can't let go of, is the fact that Rosin is the mother of two young sons, as well as a daughter. What I cannot get over is how a mother of sons can so casually talk about trends which put two of her children in a clearly "less than" position. Read More
You'd be best off following the advice of an older friend of mine, a grandfather of six, who said to me when I was about to become a grandfather for the first time, "Remember this: Zip your lip." Read More