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Resilience requires a wide repertoire of skills to cope with stress. Here’s the bottom line—life is stressful, so we need to prepare our children to handle challenges effectively. Read More
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Kenneth,
I really resonate with your piece today.
Children benefit when we, as parents, do the work of stress management, and feeling good about living this life.
When we are stressed, they are burdened. When we have gotten it together, they have a chance for an innocent childhood.
Now, Ken, I specialize in divorce and parenting.
So, this point is even more powerful under the stress of a divorce.
It is so easy to dump your anger or anxiety at home.
Your child may annoy you for some silly thing, but that does not mean that you have a license to yell because you are tired or worried.
"I am sorry, but your father is stressing me out," doesn't cut it.
Call a friend, see a therapist, talk to God.
But don't dump it on the kids.
It would be great to interview you on our radio show, www.divorcesourceradio.com. Let me know if you are interested.
By the way, I am writing a series now on love, from the point of view of someone who has seen too many divorces. Love, when done well, is a great tonic for anxiety - and good parenting.
Here is a current piece.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201204/erich...
Warm Regards and great work,
Mark Banshick, MD
WWW.TheIntelligentDivorce.com
Healthy Sentiments, but we can do more.
I've written a bit on this subject myself. I have no children of my own, but my little brother is ten years younger than me and my primary goal in life is to positively influence the lives of children. Here's the blog post I wrote on the matter: http://thinkstrangethoughts.blogspot.com/2012/01/what-craziness-is-this-...
My written thoughts are by no means exhaustive of the subject. I trust that readers will understand the main point. We can't just tell kids what is wrong without showing them what is right.
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