Raising Grieving Children

Since all people will go through this at some point in their lives,would it not be in the best interest of the child who is in a grieving situation,to be exposed to what is the truth, in a way in which they can understand with kindness and care?
In my opinion, this point could be the most optimal in a childs life to begin to see,and try to understand themselves in a different and more profound way.

I look forward very much to future entries!

It means the mother will have to navigate different seas full of emotion.

When my husband died our kids were 6, almost 4 and barely 2 years old. All three were very close to their once active dad. His death came as an incomprehensible change in their life to them, even though he had been ill for seventeen months. Even though we had talked about not getting better, and eventually about death.
The change in their life, the new 'hole' in our family, just had to be accepted by them. It was one of many things they had to accept without being able to 'mull it over' or comprehend.
In time they came to realize that 'the hole' and their father were one and the same.

Being a mother to grieving kids is hard and often leaves you feeling guilty. Because kids will usually postpone their grieving until their remaining parent is back on her/his feet. But grieving a spouse takes more than two or three months, so you need to hurry and juggle.

As a mother you grieve as best and quick as you can, to give the children some much needed and deserved peace and happiness as soon as possible. But still, it takes time, and the grieving for your spouse delays and complicates the process of mourning of your child/children. (Although seeing that you hurt and cry as well, is beneficial to them at the same time.)
There's need for speed, because too much delay makes it hard to understand the connection between unpleasant feelings and the loss of dad. Too much delay makes it hard to mourn succesfully, and to integrate the loss into a 'normal' and relatively carefree youth. After all, how to mourn someone who's hardly remembered or talked about? Who's smell is gone. Who's voice is forgotten? Who you can hardly remember living with, can hardly imagine living with?

Parenting a grieving child means dealing with big and very real fears (What if you die, too, mom? What if I die? What if dad didn't go to heaven, because there is no heaven?).
It means being constantly exhausted for a couple of years, because of the overload of emotions and responsibilities.
It means raising your children way different than you would have wanted to raise them, had meant to raise them.
It means trying to merge his values and 'spirit' with your own personality, so you can still give your kid(s) a piece of him.
It means getting an extraordinary bond with them, if/when things finally work out.
It means seeing beautiful and empathic people growing up if all goes well...