A Psychological Solution to Bullying

When we advocate for laws against bullying, we declare the failure of psychology to solve the problem.

Izzy Kalman is the author/creator of the website Bullies2Buddies.com, and the world's most serious critic of the anti-bully movement. See full bio

November 17, 2009

Ladakh: A Society with No Bullies–Or Victims!

I often say, "The place where no one bullies anyone is Heaven, and you have to die to get in." We are trying to get rid of bullying from our schools, but we are failing because we are alive, and living people are not angels. And the harder we try to force kids to stop being bullies, the bigger of a problem bullying becomes. Read More

August 27, 2009

Who Really Killed 11 Year Old Jaheem Herrera?

According to a new report, bullying did not kill Jaheem Herrera. Read More

July 29, 2009

The Real Reason Prof. Henry Louis Gates was Arrested

Before I begin this article, I want it to be clear that there are few people who care about race relations more than I do. And please don’t accuse me of lack of sensitivity to race issues. Most of my relatives lost their lives in Europe during World War II for the terrible “crime” of being Jews. Read More

July 10, 2009

Free Website Manual Saves Life of a Bullying Victim

The modern world is trying so hard to find the solution for the suffering of victims of bullying, and we are doing it by trying to pass school anti-bully laws, as though a law can make bullying magically disappear from schools. In fact, now pressure is being put on the US Congress to do something about bullying. Read More

July 2, 2009

The Tragic Death of Freedom of Speech and the Growth of Intolerance

Only July 4, the United States will be celebrating Independence Day, the birth of our nation. Unfortunately, the greatest freedom provided us by this new democracy has been dying and few people seem to be aware of it or care about it. And many others are even cheering it on. Read More

June 18, 2009

The Solution to "Gay" Insults: Freedom of Speech

There was a recent high profile story in the news about an 11-year old boy who committed suicide, apparently because he could no longer tolerate being called “gay.” Sadly, this story is not unusual. The highest suicide rate of all groups is said to be among gays. Read More

June 5, 2009

Interview on Bullying with Prof. Helene Guldberg

In my last blog entry, I wrote about a recently published book, Reclaiming Childhood: Freedom and Play in an Age of Fear, by developmental psychologist, Helene Guldberg. Read More

May 21, 2009

A Voice of Sanity in the World of Anti-Bully Hysteria: Developmental Psychologist Helene Guldberg

Bullying has become the number one worry of parents, as recent polls are showing:

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May 7, 2009

Tenth Anniversary of the Columbine Shooting

I’m sending this blog entry a couple of weeks after the 10th anniversary of the Columbine shooting. That date–April 20–is important to me because the Columbine shooting was the event that made me realize my mission to teach the world a better way to understand and deal with the problem of bullying. Read More

April 8, 2009

The Anti-Bully Operation was a Success but the Patient Died

The entire modern world is complaining that bullying is becoming an escalating problem in schools. Meanwhile, the effort to combat bullying in schools has also been escalating. No one seems to be putting two and two together. Isn’t it possible that bullying is escalating because the effort to fight it is escalating? Read More

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