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The Truth About Oppositional Defiant Disorder

In this video, I discuss the DSM V description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder Read More


Plain old ''Bipolar'' works fine,still.

Many Times...

The home should be looked at first. Sometimes the parents won't admit to what is really going on but want the child "fixed". Great way to look at all the factors.


I liked your article. I think empathy is so important when dealing with ODD.
When I was a child I was the absolute walking textbook definition of ODD. Funny, no one caught that & diagnosed it then. I defied everyone at every turn. I was definitely the "target patient" in my family which I'm sure only fueled my rage and distrust. I could see there were loads of things wrong in our home, but I was the one "in trouble," as I came to think of it. As an adult I wrote off my short comings to ADHD, and only recently had I considered ODD. But it explains everything.
Now I'm faced with how do I cope with it. It's not gone. As a matter of fact it's more honed, if you will. I defy myself constantly, worse than I would ever defy another person. It's so pervasive, touching all aspects of my life, completely to my detriment, of course. I've suffered from depression most of my life as well. I was always so broken by not understanding why I could never "get it together."
This ability to defy myself and all others is extraordinary. When I step back and look at it, it's almost brilliant. If someone could win an award for how well they outwit and defy themselves I'd be the champ. Hands down. But in all seriousness, it leaves me scared at the end of the day. I've spent 37 years unconsciously perfecting this and all I want to do is find my way out of it. It (or I, depending on how you want to look it) stands in the way of everything I want to achieve.

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Ugo Uche is a Licensed Professional Counselor who specializes in adolescents and young adults.


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