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Why People Subscribe To Foolish Beliefs

Village Women Make Betters Wives.

Village Women Make Better Wives...

This was the belief a friend of mine shared with me when I asked him why he was marrying a woman he had never met. The woman, after six months of living in the United States, would later clear out their joint account and leave behind a "dear John" letter. In which she explained that the only reason she had agreed to the arranged marriage, was so that she could get an opportunity to be with her one true love, who had come to America on a college scholarship. My friend would later share with me his new belief about village women; they weren't the same as they used to be. Of course, it had absolutely nothing to do with the fact he had never met his bride to be prior to picking her up at JFK, talk less of getting to know her.

Human beings are pleasure seeking creatures, as a result we have a tendency to embrace beliefs that imply or state explicitly that happiness can be achieved through a shortcut.

This is why my friend felt that getting into a marriage he would be happy in, was as easy as asking his relatives in Nigeria to pick a bride for him. I guess he felt that the money he was earning was hard work enough.

People have a tendency to give into beliefs that suggest they are at an advantage; never mind that there is an absence of concrete evidence, or the presence of contradictory evidence. I like to call this the feel good phenomenon, "if you feel good about the belief, then it must and should be true".

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Kanazawa, being a social scientist is well aware of this phenomenon and capitalizes on it every opportunity he sees to make a dollar. His recently removed post alleging that every woman who is black is unattractive is another example of how he capitalizes on foolishness to sell his books. 

Not long ago, I responded to one of his posts where he claimed that all persons caught up in the prison system where not intelligent, or had a lower level of intelligence when compared to the rest of the population. It's a convenient lie to believe in if you have never been involved in any legal trouble. It definitely permits most members of society to turn a deaf ear to stories about persons with lower incomes agreeing to take plea deals on false accusations, simply because they cannot afford a good defense.

Being a member of any ethnicity or race does not predispose you to good looks, also being good looking does not predispose you to a better life. Two people born to the same parents look very different, even though they may share similar features. If you find the previous sentence hard to believe, take a look at a recent family picture of you and your siblings, and if you don't have siblings, take a look at a recent family picture of a relative or friend with his or her siblings. Even better, if you have children, take a look at them.

The reality is that as human beings, none of us are immune to struggle or suffering. The best way to go through life is finding a genuine sense of meaning and purpose in who we are and what we do.  No human being has ever found true happiness at the expense of another person. Nevertheless for Kanazawa to write a post suggesting that women who are black are unattractive, based on his pseudo research is unconscionable.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; not Hollywood, not the media, and certainly not science can set any genuine standard for beauty. People who subscribe to Kanazawa's mentality haven't learned to love. They see themselves and others as objects, and are only with the people they claim to love, solely for purpose of "looking good". A good example would be people who come to a great deal of wealth and begin purchasing certain staples, to make a statement.

For the record black women, like women of other races are beautiful and here's one proof out of millions.

 

 

Ugo Uche is a Licensed Professional Counselor who specializes in adolescents and young adults.

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