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10 Things Happy People Do Differently

How happy are you and why? Since graduating with my master’s degree in positive psychology, I’ve worked with and observed thousands of people in a wide variety of settings, and happy people just flow with the groove of life in a unique way. Here is what they do differently. Read More

Happiness is a Journey

This is a wonderful article. Though I wouldn't say I've entered "durable fulfillment" at my ripe age of 28, I would say that after a long path of intense suffering, spiritual seeking and personal growth, I've reached a place that feels like the path to happiness.

I might add to the list meditation, or at least the ability to quiet the mind, be still and truly bask in the innate beauty of the present moment, whether there's anything exciting going on or nothing at all. Also, I don't think happy people participate in ego-driven arguments and know that to be right isn't usually the best way. They remain uncondescendingly above trite quarrels.

This was a great read.

I agree

Meditation is a powerful stress buster and happiness promoter. I've struggled to build regular meditation into my life, but it's something I'm going to make a more conscious effort to do.

Thanks for the reminder!

Paula

I agree

Meditation is a powerful stress buster and happiness promoter. I've struggled to build regular meditation into my life, but it's something I'm going to make a more conscious effort to do.

Thanks for the reminder!

Paula

The Right Path to Happiness

The times today exposes us to a lot of death-laden stress that robs us of joy. But, talking about positive things and avoiding saying words with poison, will help us gain happiness. Why is this so? If we talk about positive things about life, we will feel positive, too, about our current situation, whatever it may be. We will also be sharing our happy outlook to people around us.

You are right about positivity

Positive emotions are contagious, as you point out. In addition, they help you become more creative and slow down your heart rate when you experience negative emotions, so when you're stressed out, think of something funny or joyful.

One of the biggest eye openers for me in my own happiness journey has been the power of positive emotions. I paid very little attention to them (too soft) during my law practice, and I was so wrong to do so.

For a great book on this topic, supported by tons of great research, check out Positivity by Dr. Barbara Fredrickson.

Thanks!

Happy People

I could have used this article years ago but, I didn't know the things then that I know now. Spirituality and surrounding myself with people that are "for me" has been my key to happiness. I believe that the additional information from this article can help me to continue on my path of positivity. I'm definitely going to pass this along.

Thank you again for another

Thank you again for another insightful article. It really shows the author has experienced hardship and grown from it.

I feel happy living a very authentic life. Not pretending is important to me and that also seems to attract likeminded people, the others seem to feel awkward and shy away when they realise they don't have a counterpart for they playing role.

I guess it really takes a burnout to wake you up if your values don't support you ie. they are superficial. That's what happened to me at least. No more chasing after money and status, since friendships, loving attitude and meaning in everything I do have taken over.

Thank you again for another

Thank you again for another insightful article. It really shows the author has experienced hardship and grown from it.

I feel happy living a very authentic life. Not pretending is important to me and that also seems to attract likeminded people, the others seem to feel awkward and shy away when they realise they don't have a counterpart for they playing role.

I guess it really takes a burnout to wake you up if your values don't support you ie. they are superficial. That's what happened to me at least. No more chasing after money and status, since friendships, loving attitude and meaning in everything I do have taken over.

Religion doesn't necessarily

Religion doesn't necessarily make people happier, that is only true if a society is dominated by one's religion http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-human-beast/201102/does-religion... And one can't say that because there is a correlation between religion and happiness then the fact that someone is religious is making them happier, it could be that religious people in their persecution of non-religious people are making them less happy and thus looking happier by comparison.

This is a wonderful article.

This is a wonderful article. Gratitude goes a long way to promoting happiness. Thanks for sharing it!

Material wealth can be an important factor in happiness?

Some people can be happy in poverty, but I don't think that material wealth is a very small part of the happiness equation. I think that research needs to include talking with very poor people, and seeing how happy they are. It is easier to say that money doesn't buy happiness, when you have material comforts and a substantial bank account. This article seems to be in the context of high material achievement. I would like to hear from people with low incomes. I think that Albert Schweitzer was happy in Africa, with very simple living conditions. The Native American happiness did not include money. I would like to include living off the land, and living close to nature, as factors in happiness. I would like to see further research, following this very nice article. Thank you, Paula Davis-Laack!

Gratitude

This is a very great article,happiness to me is a thought process,to be happy you have to think with gratitude.There will be challenges and disappointments in life and some times these adversity seem like they will never end.Find gratitude even in those adversity. Sometimes it is hard to see the good things in life,when you are in the middle of a crisis,Find the blessing by focusing on positive things,you will discover that the power of the adversity on your becomes smaller.Life moves forward,it is a new day.

Extra Credit Psychology

Happiness

Happiness is the object and design of our existence and will be the end thereof as we persue the path thereto!
We must each ask ourselves,"What is happiness?" "What is it that truly makes me happy?" I believe that happiness is a state of being which is largely the result of the choices we make and the response we choose to those things which happen to us!

What am I doing or what have I recently done which has resulted in the feeling of happiness to which I now enjoy in this present moment! Living in the moment or present state is important to happiness! Sometimes we dwell upon the past unhappy memories far too long and this robs us of the here and now!

Adequate rest, a healthy diet and regular exercise are important elements of happiness! The lack thereof can diminish our ability to perceive and achieve an optimal Happy state of being.

Meaningful employment is important! As is our attitude to our job. If we cannot do the job we love right now, let's love the job we have!

I believe we have all the necessary and vial ingredients of happiness within reach everyday of our life!

When it comes down to it, Happiness is truly a choice we must individually make every day! Let's decide today to be happy by so choosing and doing those things we must!

I am so thankful for a loving God who has provided everything, this earth life, family, friends and associates. I know that the only way to be truly happy, is to live in harmony with God's laws. I pray that we will each seek to learn of Jesus Christ and His soul saving gospel principles and that our lives and the lives of those we know and love will be richly blessed with Happiness, in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

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Paula Davis-Laack, J.D., M.A.P.P., is a stress management and work/life performance expert providing strategies for a healthier, more resilient you.

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