Addiction saps self-trust Read More
This is a good one. I am printing it out for Caleb.
I did not trust myself when I was practicing my craft as an alcoholic. Once I gave it up and had been sober for about a year that all changed.
I think becoming comfortable with not drinking, with knowing that not only do you not have to drink but also that you don't want to drink provides clarity. You can spend less time watching yourself for destructive behavior and more time pushing forward into your new life.
One good way to do this is to fill the time you spent drinking with goals you want to accomplish and that you are reasonably certain to succeed at.
Think "bloody the army". That is picking a fight for the new guys that you know they can win. They learn to fall back on their training and once they have a victory moral goes up. They have won once, there is a good chance they can do it again. They are comfortable even though there is reason to be fearful.
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Peg O'Connor, Ph.D., is Professor of Philosophy and Gender, Women, and Sexuality Studies at Gustavus Adolphus College in St. Peter, Minnesota.
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