Even if many of our fears are based on media hype, parental fear is real. It should be respected and not dismissed. But we also need to make sure that children have as much play, as independent as possible, in the natural world. Some parents will be comfortable encouraging their kids to roam freely, but the truth is most won't. So here are seven suggestions, drawn from "Last Child in the Woods," for ways to manage our fear, reduce risk, and still get our kids outside.

1. Take your kids outdoors. If we want our children or grandchildren to experience nature, we'll need to be more proactive than parents of past generations. When my wife and I raised our boys, we certainly felt the fear, and they didn't have the freedom to roam that we did. (That's Kathy and Matthew Louv in the photo.) But our sons did experience nature - in the canyon behind our house, building their forts, digging their holes, sitting under a tree coated with butterflies, all within our eyesight. We took them hiking, and I took them fishing, often. And we tried to stay out of their way so they could explore on their own.

2. Be a "hummingbird parent." Bethe Almeras writes, "In the range from helicopter to neglect - I probably fall a bit more toward helicopter. In fact, I call myself a hummingbird parent. I tend to stay physically distant to let them explore and problem solve, but zoom in at moments when safety is an issue (which isn't very often)." Notice that Bethe isn't hovering over her kids with nature flash cards. She stands back and makes space for independent nature play - albeit not as free as she experienced as a child, this play is important nonetheless.

3. Teach your child to watch for behaviors more than for strangers. That's the advice of family psychologist John Rosemond. "Telling a child to stay away from strangers is relatively ineffective. ‘Stranger' is not a concept young children understand easily," he maintains. "Instead, children ought to be taught to be on the lookout for specific threatening behaviors and situations." Also, get to know your neighbors. Create a play-watch group and ask fellow parents to sit on front stoops or porches or lawns several hours a week; that way, they are available at a distance as children play.

4. Develop a walking/activity buddy system. Encourage kids to do nature activities together. "It's cheap and grassroots based," suggests Juliet Robertson, a nature play specialist in Scotland. "If there were agreed times and routes then folk could meet up and walk together or bike together." Some young people are creating their own kids' nature clubs.

5. Create or join a family nature club. Nature Clubs for Families are beginning to catch on across the country; some have membership lists

of over 400 families. The idea is that multiple families meet to go for a hike, garden together, or even do stream reclamation. We hear from family nature club leaders that when families get together, the kids tend to play more creatively - with other kids or independently - than during single family outings. C&NN's Nature Clubs for Families offers a free downloadable guide on how to start your own.

6. Take back the trails. On C&NN's online discussion group, which is a great place to talk with other parents and learn about the movement (Ken Finch of Green Hearts offers a good essay on this topic there, too), Patty Born Selly makes this suggestion for dealing with fear: "The best thing we can do as a community is to take back our trails - slowly, over time, we will reach a tipping point of sorts. The more people are out there, using our parks, using our trails, enjoying our natural areas, the more our collective comfort with this sort of thing increases."

7. Get the safety information you need. Become familiar with good resources for safety tips in the outdoors, including those with information on how to guard against ticks. One such site is the Centers for Disease Control Web site. The Web site for the Audubon Society of Portland offers excellent general information on living with a variety of urban wildlife.

Does our fear often border on the irrational? Sure. But nobody said that parenting itself is completely rational. If it were, scientists would be raising our kids. In labs. With control groups.

Yes, there are risks outdoors (though not nearly as many as the news media would have us believe), but there are huge psychological, physical and spiritual risks in raising future generations under protective house arrest. Child obesity is just one of them. So, rather than giving in to those fears, we need to give our children the appropriate freedom they deserve. And we also have to come up with new, safe ways to get our young people and ourselves outdoors. Parents can't do this alone. Communities and organizations need to help. But for families, these seven actions are a start.

I'll close here with another bit of wisdom from Bethe Almeras, who also co-founded the National Wildlife Federation's Green Hour ®: "Common sense needs to rule on this issue. Are helicopter parents bad for caring so deeply about their kids? Certainly not. Will their children be scarred for life? No. Should parents back off and let their kids take reasonable risks? Yes!"
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Richard Louv is chairman of the Children and Nature Network. He is the author of "Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder."

Additional Resources:

• "Last Child in the Woods" with a new guide of 100 actions for families and communities.
• C&NN's Nature Clubs for Families: free toolkit for starting your own.
• Nature Rocks: tips for taking your children outdoors.