(Disclaimer: I have no financial or personal connection to the books or authors recommended in this blog, and I do not receive any royalties from purchases of these books. I recommend them because they are good!) Read More
You are standing in line for your first roller coaster ride. Your heart is racing and your palms are sweating as you watch the ride fly by. Are you going to be able to face your fear and get on the ride? Or are you going to sit this one out and miss out on the thrill? Many people will turn around and walk away, missing out on a great experience. Read More
Imagine the following scenario: You're at work, the day seems to be going smoothly, and you're looking forward to a relaxing evening at home. Then, with 15 minutes left your boss approaches you and informs you that you really messed something up. You apologize and try to explain what happened, but all your boss tells you is that you need to get your act together. Read More
In my previous post "A Love Hate Relationship" I discussed how most self-sabotaging behaviors have both positive and negative influences that drive them. In this post I'm going to talk about a major negative driving force of self-sabotage: emotion dysregulation. Read More
In life we often experience multiple wants and desires. Frequently these desires are incompatible with each other and even worse sometimes we make a decision that results in fulfilling neither desire! Self-sabotage is often the result of conflicting desires, where an individual usually has two (sometimes more) desires that are incompatible with each other. Read More
People hate it when they act in ways that self-sabotage. So why don't they just stop? For example, let's say you are trying to diet. You've had some success and lost a few pounds, but you still have a way to go to be at your ideal weight. Then, you lose control and spend the night eating oodles of forbidden food. Oops, that's not going to help your diet: self-sabotage. Read More
What is self-sabotage? Well, perhaps calling it by some other names might help give you an idea: "shooting yourself in the foot," "putting your foot in your mouth," or "cutting off your nose to spite your face." These phrases all refer to a desire to achieve a goal, but in the process of pursuing that goal you burn bridges to achieving another, more desirable goal. Read More
Eddie Selby is a NIMH Predoctoral Research Fellow and doctoral candidate in clinical psychology at the Florida State University. He specializes in emotional and behavioral dysregulation.