Well, we all knew this was true but here's a study to prove it: daughters are spending about 7 more hours a month taking care of their aging parents than sons do.
Princeton doctoral student Angelina Grigoryeva presented her research at a recent meeting of the American Sociological Association in San Francisco. Grigoryeva drew on a government survey in 2004. Yes, that's ten years ago, and possibly the trend has already begun to change.
But at least in 2004, Grigoryeva found, daughters did everything they could for their parents, and sons stepped in only if a sister wasn't available.
Are you a woman doing the bulk of the caregiving for an elderly parent--while your brother makes the occasional phone call? You might talk to your brother about pitching in. Perhaps he's operating on assumptions based on what he sees in other families. If you say directly that you'd like him to do more, it could be hard to refuse.
Is your caregiving interfering with your earning ability? You're helping your parent out of love, or even a sense of duty--not for pay. Still, if your parent leaves your brother just as much money as you get, and he's done very little for them, you may be hurt and resentful. Your parent is being even-handed, but the work and care wasn't evenly distributed.