Off the Couch

Darlene* and Nate* were in their thirties when they realized that their marriage was collapsing. “We don’t have anything in common anymore,” Nate said, “except for the kids.”One of the places that their marriage has suffered the most has been in the bedroom. “We don’t have time or energy for sex anymore,” says Darlene. “She doesn’t seem interested anymore,” says Nate. Read More

When Meg’s* boyfriend told her that the relationship was over, she could not stop crying. “It was like a kick in the stomach. Like someone I loved told me that they were critically ill. And now I feel like someone has died.” She lost weight and had no energy for or interest in any of her usual activities. Read More

Melanie* tells me that her twelve year old daughter is being picked on by other girls. “They’re so mean,” she sighs. “I try to tell her that they’re bad friends, and that she should look for nicer ones. But that that just makes her angry at me. She says I don’t understand. I wish I knew how to help her get through this.” Read More

Being thin is not necessarily a good thing. Read More

The secret is out. An article in the New York Times recently shared something therapists tend to keep among ourselves: couples’ therapy is hard on therapists. But the author left out an important part of the secret: while couples therapy can be painful for everyone involved (therapist included), it can also be extremely rewarding. There is a not-simple trick, of course. Read More

My friend Sam* has had a long and successful career in the law; but he has always dreamed of being a high school English teacher. "My parents were both teachers, and they told me my whole childhood that it was a terrible career choice—low pay, very hard work, and no respect." But although he listened to their counsel, Sam has always felt that he failed to follow his own truth. Read More

Almost everyone procrastinates about something, usually, though not always, something we don’t like doing. Read More

What's missing from internet information? Knowing this little fact can actually help you protect yourself! Read More

The holidays are over, the temptations are less. A psychotherapist who has worked with eating disorders for many years looks at what goes into a post-holiday diet. Read More

Setting reasonable limits and maintaining flexible boundaries can improve your relationships and make you happier; but just how do you do that? Read More

Boredom can be good for you! Read More

Finding any job isn't easy these days; so what about your dream job? Read More

A secret weapon in the fight against college binge drinking Read More

What makes us binge on food and shopping? What can we do to change? Read More