I met a couple in my practice who were evidently sexually thrilled with each other. They had two children, one with a significant neurological impairment, the other acting out at school. While they were worried about both children and seeking help, they presented as a united front. I wondered how they managed to weather the stress of parenting. "We still make time for each other," was the mother's simple answer. Then she blushed.
There is something to be said for ensuring sexual satisfaction between parents. In fact, research shows that it is marital satisfaction (and that means both a good sex life and the sensuality of touch and time spent listening to one another) more than the stress of raising a child with a disability or a behavior problem that causes parents to divorce.
Consider this: a 4-year study of couples after the birth of their first child showed that most couples were sexually content despite being sleep deprived. What's more, the better the sex, the more sensual the relationship. It seems that keeping it hot in the bedroom can also mean a more enduring and intimate relationship between spouses. And that, of course, is good for kids because parents who are communicating well and feeling close to one another are also more likely to parent effectively.