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Love Is the New Superfood

Food and love are inextricably linked by our mammalian biology. Yet our hectic modern lifestyles mean that many people are no longer accessing the emotional and spiritual nurturance that delicious, healthy food offers. Read here how you can relearn to love your food, and be loved by it in return. Read More

Thank you for this article

What a delight it was to read this. It brings me back to the things that matter most to me in my life. Much appreciated!

This is why

I cook almost ALL my own food. It's far more satisfying, both in the cooking and in the consumption. I don't have the "friendship/conviviality" aspect because I live alone, but sharing can happen by taking cookies to work. It also helps to eat mindfully, and not absentmindedly stuff something down while paying attention to something else. I feel sorry for people who just shove a plastic tray in the microwave and wonder why it isn't satisfying.

Fed by the author

I was the incredibly fortunate recipient of a delicious and beautiful 2 hour lunch prepared lovingly for me on Valentine's Day by Conner Middleman Whitney. She is a new friend I met because she bought my deceased husband's desk. Now she writes these wonderful articles on his desk. What a world!

I also live alone but cook all my own food and look forward to the times when I can share meals with others. Thanks Conner.

Yes! Absolutely Agree

I've been writing about many of these same issues, also here on PT, and am struck by how well you put this advice. The American attitude towards food--how we eat--is killing us as much as what we eat, but it's surprisingly difficult to convince people of this. You're getting at a deep psychological truth about our emotional disconnect from food, and yet it's one that people don't really accept here, or at least not enough to change. They prefer to obsess and fret and overanalyze, rather than to enjoy. Not sure how or when that will change?

Emotional disconnect

Thank you, Zanthe -- especially for bringing your wonderful blog to my attention! I agree wholeheartedly with your take on nutrition and kid-feeding. (I have three children myself and share many of your views & experiences.)

None of this is likely to change in a hurry, but I do feel more and more people are receptive to our message, so I think we'll need to keep yammering on about it:). I give a lot of talks in schools (incl. to parents, not just the kids) and this often has a very powerful impact. Even months later, people contact me to tell me that my talk changed the way they look at -- and consume -- food. So keep the faith!

(Btw, I can't subscribe to your blog by RSS feed -- is there a way I could receive your posts as emails?)

I think I am loving the

I think I am loving the comments as much as the beautifully written piece. Thanks for yet another gem of not only research ,but from-the-heart writing. Wish I could have shared that lunch with you and Joan.

Like Water for Chocolate

I just finished reading this beautiful novel, Like Water for Chocolate, where the author uses magical realism to explore the power of food. I just moved in with my boyfriend a few months ago and I've started cooking food every night. I'm a busy college student who also works, but cooking myself is so much cheaper than a burger at the school cafeteria. This is how it started at least, but soon I was enveloped in the smells of the kitchen, the taste of the onion, the sounds of the olive oil sizzling in the pan, and I was in love with both my partner and cooking. When I cook for my partner the food is simple; however, the result is always so wonderful and so delicious. Incidentally, whenever we visit his mother who disapproves of our relationship, there is always an awkward silence at the table as the food seems to be bitter or if we are lucky bland. It's strange, because the food she cooks just for him is always wonderful! I'm in love with cooking, and I think you for this article. We were just talking about this at dinner yesterday, and this article was beautiful. <3 Thank you, and I suggest that book if you have not already read it. <3 Thank you,

Like Water for Chocolate

Hi Michelle,

Thanks so much for your lovely comment! I read "Like Water for Chocolate" many years ago and have been meaning to re-read it -- thank you for the reminder!

What you relate is so interesting -- how you can taste love or disapproval from the meals in your life. While I don't think we should judge every cook's emotional state or intention by their dish -- sometimes we're in a rush, and some people just don't know how to cook, try as they may! -- I agree that you can often taste whether thought and effort has gone into a meal.

Funnily enough, a friend (and retired cooking instructor) recently asked me whether I meditate. I hesitated (because I would *like* to meditate regularly, but struggle to make the time...), and then answered: "I cook!" We both laughed in mutual recopgnition of the fact that cooking can be an extremely grounding, meditative act -- as you, too, seem to be discovering!

In addition to teaching health-cooking classes, I offer "Mindful Cooking" workshops where we focus on exactly what you describe: 'Being In The Present' with our food: experiencing it with all our senses, switching off our crazy-busy monkey-minds and centering down into the deeply satisfying act of nurturing our bodies and our souls. (Here's a description of the course:

So keep on cookin', Michelle!
Warm regards,

Thumbs up!

When onions make you cry, that's Meditation! :-)

Thank You!

I greatly apprechiate the feedback. I find myself watching the clock every day waiting to go home and relax while preparing a meal. Your article is wonderful and I'm reading about your classes that sound wonderful too. Thank you,

Superfood Chocolate

In every occasion we like to take or to send gift chocolate. So we should keep in mind that is it healthy or not. In that case I have a known tasty and healthy chocolate item named Superfood Chocolate and it is made from Cacao. You can also try it for you and your family.

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Conner Middelmann Whitney is a nutritionist, journalist, chef, and former cancer patient.


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