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Working in the ward.

Collateral Damage - Conclusion

Will the towers ever stop falling?

Sometime that afternoon, my father calls. I keep him in a nursing home in Portland, as if I own him and have that right. In the twilight of our relationship, he’s hobbled by dementia and doesn’t remember how to use the remote control or how to end a phone conversation. He’s a captive audience. We weep about the city we know so well we can walk its streets in our dreams and never get lost. I call the nursing station and ask them to hang up my father’s phone and turn off his television. Other than that morning, he’s been doing well, the charge nurse informs me.

When I leave the ward that afternoon, a hunger overwhelms me. I want to hold tight to something innocent, a void so young and pure it’s untouched by breath or fingertip; it has no history, no double helix. I visit my father.

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The next morning everyone is haggard. The emergency room has filled and emptied and filled again during the night. We have no empty beds. Disturbed sleep and dark dreams prevail. The hospital ramps up staffing as aftershocks shift our roots from shared foundations – the common expectation of safety on our own soil. The first group on the first morning after nine-eleven tallies nightmares – a ground-zero litany for the mentally ill:

“My house crumbled with me in it.”

“I was burned alive.”

“A baby floated through the air toward me. It had no arms or legs.”

“I jumped out of a window but I woke up before I hit the ground.”

In the big picture, I’m a bit player, an editor in the narrative version of their lives. I enter in the middle of the story. I’m a conduit: the scalpel, the IV bag, the splint that holds the fractured psyche together until the crisis passes and the patient can stand on his own.

There’s always this question. What separates us from them. Any answer anchored in hard science is a long way off. Other than that, there are different answers on different days. On some days what separates us is a matter of degree. Anyone who experiences the loss of a child, a life-threatening illness, the turmoil of divorce, knows how fragile sanity seems at times, and rests well when the chill of danger passes. One morning you wake up and understand you’ve averted disaster.

I know it’s unlikely I’ll experience the horrors that bring men and women to the ward, because whatever doubles you over, whatever trigger, whatever errant chromosome, whatever neurotransmitter in whatever area of the brain has done this to them, has not done it to me. Whatever constitutes resilience has, in the service of survival, kept me going. Whether by luck or design, I remain upright.

The emotional and physical boundaries that are essential on September 10th mean less on September 11th. On September 10th, the physicians, nurses and therapists on the ward have the power to say who’s mad. It’s easy – anyone who sleeps on this thirty-bed ship of fools is mad. What separates us on September 11th is just this: precious little. For a brief period of time, shared disaster obliterates the biological and cultural contexts of mental illness. What we have in common is greater than what distinguishes us from each other. Jets crash into the familiar landscape of my childhood and carefully established roles change, patients and staff coalesce, one superimposed on the other.

On September 10th sanity is a worldview, a consensus. Madness requires witnesses. On September 11th we are all witnesses, sane or mad.

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At this writing, ten September 11ths have come and gone. A decade. Life moves on and away for those of us who are able to shun the political drama and the corrupt pageantry. For most of us it's a reminder that we are vulnerable and September 11th is a private sorrow.

On another brilliantly clear, splendidly warm day in Portland, in another clinical setting, it’s September 11th again. A young man enters my office. There are outward signs that he takes antipsychotic medication: tremors, fatigue, drool. His abdomen broadens just below his chest, putting his heart at risk, but vestiges of the handsome boy remain. Although he’s making progress toward his goals, this morning he sweats profusely and he’s hypervigilant. He startles when my phone rings. He requests a ‘prn’ – a medication dispensed as needed to treat transient symptoms of anxiety or agitation.

“It’s September 11th,” he says. He doesn't recall what happened a decade ago. He was too young. But the television reminds him. In the day room, another group of patients watch the towers fall.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Evelyn Sharenov is a writer and mental health nurse. Her essays have been published in anthologies and The New York Times.

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