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Sandra Bullock's Black Baby and His Bris

Sandra Bullock adopts black baby and gives him a bris

Sandra Bullock adopts black baby and gives him a bris. This is one of the more surprising headlines, though it actually happened months ago.

"He's just perfect," exclaims Sandra, quoted in tomorrow's edition of People Magazine. "He's wonderful."

I like Sandra Bullock as much as the next one, and those are beautiful words to hear from any mother, but am I the only one raising eyebrows?

He's perfect and the first thing that you do is to give the boy a bris? That's not exactly Miss Congeniality talking here. There's nothing to indicate in Sandra's history that either she or her beautiful new baby is of Jewish descent, so why a ceremony that is distinctly Jewish and painful for a baby, especially if he's older than 8 days.

Then there's the little question of the man with whom she adopted the baby, a certain Mr. Jesse -- Her erstwhile husband. A man whose motorcycle company logo looks suspiciously like the German Iron Cross -- a man whose one of several mistresses paraded (and he too) in Nazi memorabilia and swastikaed armbands?

The adoption and the bris happened before the news leaked out about his indiscretions, so by her own account, he was at the bris.

Sandra claims that the bris was a moment of unbelievable joy for her and Jesse as a family.

I don't doubt that, but psychoanalysts believe that the unconscious knows everything. In fact, even the most innocent actions can betray unconscious intent. The symbols here are so glaring, they are simply bursting the screen.

Could Sandra not have known that her biker boy bandana-wearing husband was such a well, bad biker boy -- I mean really bad? Could the adoption of an African-American baby who is given a bris been a prophetic slap in the face to Jesse who may associate himself with a group not known for cozying up to blacks and well known for its annihilation of Jews?

Sandra is a beautiful, intelligent woman full of life. Perhaps she will make her own interpretations. Her new son will be hungering for them before you know it.

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Simon Feuerman is a psychotherapist and is Director for the New Center for Advanced Psychotherapy Studies at Kean University in New Jersey.

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