Are you a stepsibling or half sibling? Did those stepsiblings who entered your life when Mom divorced Dad and married again, destroy your warm family nest? Maybe now it's thirty years later and you still have major issues with them. Are you still angry with them for ruining your family, draining away your parent's love, even though you know blaming them is easier than blaming Mom or your real Dad?In fact are you really confused as to who exactly are your real Mom or Dad. With all these step and blood parents - where is your allegiance? Is the grown up baby half -brother you always knew Mom favored instead of you is going to be at the summer family reunion, and you still say under your breath, Mom loved you best . and I hate you for it
Perhaps -not only that but now do you find yourself with your own marriage-divorce and remarriage and resulting acting out -angry - unhappy stepchildren?
You might try a midlife sibling family meeting. Using this tool, blood, stepsiblings and half siblings in stepfamilies can begin to deal with old or new wounds. The meeting can give them a place to speak openly about how each felt about the long ago or recent destruction and reinvention of their original family and help them set goals to work together as a stepfamily in the present and future.
I am working on an e book for family meetings that will be on my new web site http://cathycress.com/ soon. Check it out and keep tuned for the e-book