Sisters live in history and fiction as loving supports to the passages of time and jealous manipulators of their beautiful siblings. Little Women, Sense and Sensibility, Gone With the Wind, The Coulour Purple, The Blind Assassin give us the fictional representations of the feminine side of both sibling rivalry and the steadfast support of sisters to each other and their family.
Most of their lives sibs get along through thick and thin. The Dixie Chicks twin sisters steadfastly stuck together, when President George Bush's country western fans burned their CD's. Their group was almost destroyed because group member Natalie Maines said she was embarrassed to be from Bush's home state Texas, voicing her opposition to the war in Iraq. What we see, is that the sibling connection, translates the similar genetic code into a creative musical splicing. Siblings have that same genetic song to sing, perhaps like the whales that sing eerily beautiful genetically coded whale songs that scientists believe are like auditory fingerprints.
Well-being in midlife is greatly enhanced when you have a tighter sister sibling attachment. If two sisters have resolved their struggles, they have repaired more than their bond. Of all siblings, researchers report the greatest degree of intimacy and unconditional love among sisters. Sisters are more like to be " Beloved types of sisters or best friends.
If you have repaired the ropes between you and your sister, you have also forged the strongest friendship of any sibling pair. Women are hardwired to share and support. If you have mended your connection with your sister, you have strengthened the ties with a best friend.
Women are the kin keepers of society.
In middle age, sisters are most often the organizers of celebrations marking passages. You and your reconnected sister can support each other to put in order the myriad details of midlife rituals, like christenings, weddings, and retirement. Genealogy becomes more important in midlife as you reach back to find your roots. Sisters are frequently the creators of lineage charts, and together you can spend endless hours following the branches of the family tree.
In the young /old family, the adult children call upon a therapist to help with the care of a parent. Many times that call will come from a sister. Those adult children will usually be comprised of several siblings who they hold great power in the family. Siblings can align against each other to stop another sibling from doing something. For example if one sibling wants to keep Dad placed in a nursing home and the other three siblings don't, they can line up together against the fourth siblings. What follows are usually family quarrels, legal action by elderlaw attorneys and Mom not getting the care she needs when she needs it.
