I'm not a patient, but cleaning the psyche-space in my case is often precipitated by a sudden acknowledgement of a flaw in my coping systems or idealogy in regards to life. Suddenly, it occurs to me that the reason I'm not with the person of my dreams is because I don't know what I want, I don't go out and try to meet people to get a feel for what I want, I don't act/behave like I want the person of my dreams to come. I'm in agreement: we all need to take a little time to search out the baby before we throw out the bathwater, but sometimes letting go, regardless of why we held on in the first place, can help us to understand the why's in retro. Consider that the leaving process is transitional and does not in itself happen all at one time. For some, beginning to let go of our baggage is the only way we can confront why we held on (rather than holding on, trying to figure out why we're holding on, and...um...holding on). When I decided I wanted to make a transition from being a spectator in my life to being irrepressibly involved, I didn't look up every talent showcase and apply. I kept doing what I did best; I displayed myself more; I transitioned into a world in which I'm one of many and not just one. So yeah, hold on tight. But, give it up while you do, even if it's only little by little. (Surf boards in New York?)

I was just considering the same topic for my monthly newsletter on holistic health. Thanks for being at the top of the google search and for being so inspirational.
Toni