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The Half-Your-Age-Plus-Seven Rule: Does It Really Work?

Does the half-your-age-plus-7 rule work? Does it really reflect people's standards? Whether we apply the rule to George Clooney, Demi Moore, or to our own dating decisions, we ought to know the rule's strengths and limitations. Read More

interesting topic

I enjoyed the data and graphs. I think they seem to back my own social observations. As a recently divorced 49 year old women, I am noticing most men my age (as your data supports) are looking pretty far below their own age. The men who are interested in me, seem to be 60+ and then not even the "best maintained" of that age group. When I was 32 (the youngest acceptable age for a 50 year old) I was not even slightly attracted to guys even a few years older than me. I literally did not even notice them except to realize (what felt like to me) creepy gawking. The data supports this as pretty typical for a young woman - most on the chart are not wanting a man more than a few older themselves, and even that upper limit levels off to "same age" as they get older. So, I wonder what percentage of men desiring these younger mates actually find young women who will engage in a relationship or marriage with them? Are they perpetually chasing a but never catching? You hear about the George Clooney escapades, but lets face it, most men are not George Clooney! (and most older women are not Demi Moore . . . ).

Silly.

This is really a silly distinction, not worthy of a psychologist's time. Glenn

Silly to you? I wonder why.

Silly to you? I wonder why. (are you one of those older men that give the young ones the creeps???) I think it would be fascinating to know how many of the men whose stated desired preference is actually met within that age range (or are they deluded about their desirability)??? Im sure dating websites might have that sort of data from their user groups, but "social accepted norms" does not equate with 'norm".

I'm sorry Theresa.

I spoke before I thought. It's not up to me what you write about. Glenn

No problem, Robert.

No problem, Robert.

Math and psychology so rarely mix...

My own independent result for the mean age of the most attractive women over time, using observations spanning several decades now (and compiled a little while back) is Y = 0.3*X + 10, not Y = 0.5*X + 7.

On the graphs this would intersect the canonical line at (x,y) = 15, 14.5 and have a lower slope -- three years per decade, not five.

I don't know exactly what number the relevant bars on the graph correspond to, but I think it's closer to three than five. So the results look about like what I would have predicted.

A complete evolutionary model of human behavior should be able to produce this number from first principles. It's essentially an equilibrium value between several competing fundamental forces. A slope nearer to zero or below is unworkable (you don't want to even consider negative slope universes), whereas women's declining fertility with age keeps the slope from getting too high.

Previous to ~1970, women's child-bearing years ended around age 30. Trends since would make one predict the slope should be very slowly increasing with time but I doubt there's any way to currently measure this.

What proof that women hung up

What proof that women hung up the hat at age 30? Doubly so considering birth control wasn't a thing nor was criminalising rape by husband? Assuming a woman was a good breeder and didn't die in childbirth then she'd stop making babies until around the age of 45 or so.

Gail Sheehy wrote about it in <em>Passages</em> (1976).

Births dropped off rapidly after age 30 when people married at high school or college age and started families pretty much right off. Births to 34 y.o.'s and older were rare, even in the larger boomer families.

By contrast, both my (boomer) sisters didn't have their first kid until after 30. This is now not uncommon. The huge drop in birthrates over the last 40-50 years has primarily taken place among women in their twenties, who delay until their thirties and then have fewer kids than if they'd started earlier.

Older women giving birth

Martian Bachelor is correct according to the CDC.

The trend in age for giving birth is shifting to the right.

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr51/nvsr51_01.pdf

That list only goes back to

That list only goes back to 1970. I'm talking about throughout history.

Unfortunately that 'rule'

Unfortunately that 'rule' about maximum dating age becomes wider and wider as people age. So a 25 year old woman's max age for a man would be 36 - that sounds acceptable. But a 45 year old woman's max age is a whopping 79 YEARS OLD?? That is patently ridiculous!

If there has to be 'social acceptability' in dating, it should be that you date someone who is neither young enough to be your child nor old enough to be your parent.

HOTTER THAN A TEXAS PRARIE-in AUGUST female 79

mmmmmm dating or sex? Look at how , She shines on the outside, a reflection of the inside Mind. Try the Who, What, When technique.
Better to have wonderful , loving conversation with a woman, who has had her head screwed on straight. No wants, no attachment, no strings. Love is felt in the heart, not in the sex organs. So
you see. What do you mean by dating? Sex or Love? Love is for the spirit, attached to the body. Sex fun, but makes more bodies?
Remember 35 goes into 70 more times than ,;70 goes into 35 {LOL}
bruno.b.USA

HOTTER THAN A TEXAS PRARIE-in AUGUST female 79

mmmmmm dating or sex? Look at how , She shines on the outside, a reflection of the inside Mind. Try the Who, What, When technique.
Better to have wonderful , loving conversation with a woman, who has had her head screwed on straight. No wants, no attachment, no strings. Love is felt in the heart, not in the sex organs. So
you see. What do you mean by dating? Sex or Love? Love is for the spirit, attached to the body. Sex fun, but makes more bodies?
Remember 35 goes into 70 more times than ,;70 goes into 35 {LOL}
bruno.b.USA

When I was in my thirties I

When I was in my thirties I moved from the northeast to worked in a professional role in a theme park in the deep south. All the women my age were married, I soon figured out why. The various women I dated were between 18 and 21 years old, because that was the age range available. They were all nice ladies, but on about the third date or so they started talking about how they would like to get married. Which kind of explains why they were all married by age 30. In the end I ended up marrying one of them fifteen years later after she was divorced from her first husband.

ACTIVATE THE LOVE MUSCLE-HER HEART

Anonymous wrote:
When I was in my thirties I moved from the northeast to worked in a professional role in a theme park in the deep south. All the women my age were married, I soon figured out why. The various women I dated were between 18 and 21 years old, because that was the age range available. They were all nice ladies, but on about the third date or so they started talking about how they would like to get married. Which kind of explains why they were all married by age 30. In the end I ended up marrying one of them fifteen years later after she was divorced from her first husband.

As you got older, you added life experience. She would not
have appreciated you ,till you added value to her life.Today -I met my mate 46 years ago married almost 44.Till you go through some pain in your life,you no not how to recognize the joy
and wisdom of another older or younger will add to you life.
bruno.b.usa yea for you -both Ah Ha...give her an extra hug. Read this verbal to her. Sex ix felt in the body and then the head. Gone quickly. To read this to her, LOUDLY In your voice, will make her laugh this day. The love detector, her heart area, of her body, will , jump, skip a beat. Then the love you feel . for her will come through.It when said in your voice, will ring her heart ,like chuch bell and this week, will be awesome, 4 you both. Andthe love in both your hearts will vibrate for a few DAYS
OR MORE.Celebrate the day you met...that is the day she opened
her heart to what you had to say. bruno.b.usa

Young ladies should be very, very careful

A dirty little secret in the world of sex is that when relatively young women (30's, 40's) marry an old dude, and that old dude has normal or more than normal erectile dysfunction and corresponding lack of libido, the young women sure are unhappy. I'm not saying it's going to happen in every case, but consider that these are not uncommon problems in men over 50, and it might take a very large income to compensate for the premature end of your sex life.

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Love has no boundaries. I find it amusing that researchers try and fit an one size fits all formula into something so complex. Given 50% of the marriages today end in divorce and are likely between peers for the better part the model is irrelevant. There's more to it than age spread. Frankly I could care less what others think, love is between two people, it's their private business.

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Theresa DiDonato, Ph.D. is a social psychologist and assistant professor at Loyola University Maryland.

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