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Weathering Storms with Words

Power problems or not

“I don’t know what we’ll do if the power goes out.” Anyone facing a storm, especially a hurricane, can relate. Yet the dad making this comment for a local news station wasn’t concerned about food rotting in the fridge, living in the cold and dark for days, or being cut off from news updates. He was worried about what his kids would do if they couldn’t rely on their Play Station in weathering Hurricane Sandy. God forbid his family members have to actually engage each other.

Forgive me if I have no pity for their situation. Because if there’s any silver lining to a major storm, then it’s that it provides the perfect excuse for families to enjoy each other’s company, giving them the chance to bond. Power problems or not, storms allow you to tune out the rest of the world and focus on those who matter most, giving you the opportunity to do things like:

  • Play board or card games.
  • Talk about your life ambitions.
  • Read (even by candlelight) out loud to each other.
  • Play a musical instrument.
  • Discuss local or global events.

And this is just a preliminary list. Let’s not forget that most peoples around the world and throughout history have not had Play Stations, let alone TVs, DVD players, laptops, iPhones, Facebook… to keep them entertained. Like it or not, storms force families to reconnect instead of avoid each other. Everyone should take advantage.

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The same goes for couples. Lovers, too, can put down their Smart Phones and hunker down with some intellectual foreplay during a storm, sharing sentiments around matters of the heart, such as: 

  • Storms like this make me really appreciate…
  • I love being holed up and having this kind of down time with you because…
  • I’ve been thinking that we could further enhance our love life by trying…
  • You know what I’d really like to do with you right now…

Whether it’s just two of you or an entire brood, try to make the next storm all about turning inward and making the most of this opportunity for quality time together. Such can have as great and as long of an impact as a hurricane, only, in doing a world of good.

Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a certified sexuality educator, sexologist, professor, columnist and author of nine books, including The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking. more...

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