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Sing Along, "To all the men I've loved before, I'm not a slut, I'm not a whore..."

A call to musical arms (and legs & thighs &….)

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I woke up two mornings ago with the new words to this song, fully-formed, ringing in my ears. Usually, I address other topics more specific to my blog's title. But there comes a time when less urgent matters fall away in the onslaught of hatred.

Maybe it was Rush calling a kindred soul a slut; maybe it was the story I read the day before about a proposed bill in Arizona that would allow employers to fire women for using birth control for "non-medical" reasons. Or maybe it was the idea that women facing the unbearable pain of a possible abortion would be forced to have an unnecessary, unwanted "medical" vaginal penetration.

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LOGISTICS: If you sing and you're inspired, belt this one out however it moves you and drop it by my Marry, Divorce, Reconcile Facebook page. If you're a man, just change the pronouns to make it your own (To all the men she's loved before...She's not a slut, she's not a whore...you get the idea). Here's an easy chord progression we can all follow. If you have a stanza to add, please do (and add it here on the comments section if you like). We'll zipper all the songs together into a tribute to women that's worthy of who we all really are.

Let's get together and melt this horrid misogyny away. And, hey, if you're good with the video tech aspects of this project (I'm not!), please drop me a note if you can help.

Get your ditties to me by end of March. I'll post an update, and let's make it go viral.

To All the Men I've Loved Before...

To all the men I've loved before
I'm not a slut, I'm not a whore.
Rush Limbaugh got it wrong, I dedicate this song,
To all the men I've loved before.

To all the men I've once caressed,
To all the guys that I undressed,
You showed me sex is good; that love is holy. Let's...
Toast all the men I've loved before.

The deranged minds are hatred-sowing
And every time I hear them say
That girls are sluts and so unknowing
They just make me want to say...

To all the men we've loved before,
Who travelled in and out our "doors."
When Willie Nelson sang this song, not a damn soul said he was wrong.
To all the men we've loved some more.

To all the men we've loved before,
You know that we're not sluts or whores.
We've loved you, oh-so-true, we took you through and through.
To all the men we've loved before.

The deranged minds are hatred-sowing
And every time I hear them say
That girls are sluts and so unknowing
They just make me want to say...

That now it's time to stand with us,
Reject this ugly, hate-filled mess.
We know you've got our backs. Cause no one wants to ax,
All the girls you've loved before.

To all the men I've loved before
I'm not a slut, I'm not a whore.
Rush Limbaugh got it wrong, I dedicate this song,
To all the men I've loved before.

To all the men I've loved before
I'm not a slut, I'm not a whore.
And even if I was, it's always been MY fuzz;
To share with
whomever I adore...

 

Rachel Clark is a science writer, biologist, and mother.

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