Grateful kids are less violent. Read More
I believe that, in my culture, the Buddhist/Chinese culture, violence is not being good (virtuous). People of character, such as gentlemen or ladies, are not violent. We should be people of character. To get rid of violence, we have to start from the basics, and that is morality and virtue. Less anger means less opportunity for violence. Less anger leads to a life of less negative emotions. There are grateful kids, and there are violent kids, and then there are people in between (a non-violent person doesn't necessarily give gratitude). Also, sometimes it is hard to do experiments if there is none or little chance of participants getting into a situation in which they are called on to retaliate or be grateful. These things are very difficult to measure, because some people would react differently if they were being watched. On the other hand, anger is an emotion that not everybody can control (in a test).
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Jeffrey J. Froh, Psy.D., is an associate professor of psychology at Hofstra University.
It can take a radical reboot to get past old hurts and injustices.