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Think About This Before Making Your New Year's Resolution

It's important to accept life as it unfolds

If you are old enough to have watched Saturday Night Live back in the late 1970s, you certainly remember the name Rosanne Rosannadanna. (If you are not old enough to remember her, she is worth checking out on Youtube.) She was one funny character! And behind that personality was Gilda Radner. Unfortunately, this talented comedienne died of ovarian cancer when she was only forty-two years old. I recently came across the following observation, which was attributed to her:

I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.

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This quote shows that the woman was not only funny, but she was wise. She recognized the importance of embracing the unknown, of appreciating the great adventure of life.

As we approach the end of this year, I offer up her wisdom for you to absorb and turn over in your own mind. Have you embraced the unknown in this last year? Are you willing to embrace it in the coming year? How will you do this?


Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice and is on the medical staff at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, NJ. She also writes a blog for WebMD (The Art of Relationships) and is the relationship expert on WebMD’s Relationships and Coping Community.

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Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in private practice and is on the medical staff at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, New Jersey.


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