Hi and welcome to my new blog for Psychology Today! I’m very excited to be here and to have the opportunity to share with you some of the cutting-edge research that scientists have conducted on the dynamics of close relationships. My goal is simple (and somewhat selfish, since I truly love talking about these issues) – to give you the most up-to-date scientific information about love, romance, sex, attraction, conflict, and the many other fascinating and frustrating issues we face in our romantic relationships.
Now, let me admit right up front that I am hardly the poster child for relationship perfection. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my romantic relationships and I’ve experienced the same problems and pitfalls that everyone else has. But this blog is not about my own romantic successes and failures, although these have undoubtedly informed my understanding of dating and mating. I’m a social psychologist and statistician at a large university, and I conduct research on love, sex, and romance.
Thousands of participants have passed through my lab and generously given their time (and their data!) – and this has allowed me to write nearly 200 scientific articles and presentations as well as a number of books about relationships (Close Relationships [Routledge, 2011], The Mating Game [Sage, 2003, 2008], The Psychology of Interpersonal Relationships [Pearson, 2005], and Lust: What We Know About Human Sexual Desire [Sage, 1999]). I also teach classes about relationship science, and have been honored with the Outstanding Professor Award by my university for excellence in instructional and scientific achievement.