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Keeping the Curtains Down

Damaging Kiss & Tell Journalism

The latest revelations about John Edward's sex and romantic life are not only sordid; they are sad. His ex staffer, adviser and friend, afraid of missing his chance at kiss and tell journalism, has written a book proposal that labels Edwards as the father of his lover's child and even indicates that Edwards had promised to marry this woman once his wife died.

How would you like to be Elizabeth Edwards reading this? I have seen a lot of heartless revelations, but this one takes the cake. I don't know how it was leaked to the press, but I can only imagine that whoever did it wanted the widest possible notoriety for the news. The people involved no longer existed as human beings. The story was shared for a profitable book sale, and I suppose, the political aide realized he could not keep up the charade of paternity forever.

Still, the lack of compassion for Elizabeth Edwards is breathtaking. There seems to be no acknowledgment of what this information will do to her. She may have already known the child must be her husband's.... but it is another thing entirely to see him planning his life after her death before she is gone.

There just doesn't seem to be any heart left in political America. A good story is worth a lot of money- and that seems to be the only consideration. No one is entitled to a backstage any more, and people who are innocently demolished in the unveiling are just seen as collateral damage. Too bad.

Well, my heart does go out to Elizabeth Edwards. She deserves so much better. She is a valiant woman, trying to tell her story, to preserve a little dignity and not just be a passive victim of her husband's betrayal. It's impossible to do however, when no one, not even the most trusted of advisers, will allow anything- no matter how devastatingly destructive it is, to stay hidden from view.


The latest revelations about John Edwards sex and romantic life are not only sordid, they are sad. His ex staffer, adviser and friend, afraid of missing his chance at kiss and tell journalism, has written a book proposal that labels Edwards as the father of his lover's child and even indicates that Edwards had promised to marry this woman once his wife died.

How would you like to be Elizabeth Edwards reading this? I have seen a lot of heartless revelations, but this one takes the cake. I don't know how it was leaked to the press, but I can only imagine that whoever did it wanted the widest possible notoriety for the news. The people involved no longer existed as human beings. The story was shared for a profitable book sale, and I suppose, the political aide realized he could not keep up the charade of paternity forever.

Still, the lack of compassion for Elizabeth Edwards is breathtaking. There seems to be no acknowledgment of what this information will do to her. She may have already known the child must be her husband's.... but it is another thing entirely to see him planning his life after her death before she is gone.

There just doesn't seem to be any heart left in political America. A good story is worth a lot of money- and that seems to be the only consideration. No one is entitled to a backstage any more, and people who are innocently demolished in the unveiling are just seen as collateral damage. Too bad.

Well, my heart does go out to Elizabeth Edwards. She deserves so much better. She is a valiant woman, trying to tell her story, to preserve a little dignity and not just be a passive victim of her husband's betrayal. It's impossible to do however, when no one, not even the most trusted of advisers, will allow anything- no matter how devastatingly destructive it is, to stay hidden from view.



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