As much as I loathe the relationship I am in, the last thing on earth I would want to do is debase myself by getting involved in an illicit one on the side, with all the resultant complications and potential for escalating misery. So-called "romantic love" is essentially a chemical imbalance anyway, which is why it is illusory, transitory and cannot last. In my experience, the antidote to the flatline of a fundamentally dead relationship is having a really great car that you can't get enough of, and in my case I have two. Had I known this decades ago, I would have cut to the chase and just stuck with cars...

my Mother,Debbie Manka ,went off and married her Psychologist/therapist Matt Manka. It destroyed our family and my brothers mental health as well as mine. it also destroyed my fathers health as he and my mother(debbie)r were going to Matt for marriage counseling initially. Now Matt and Debbie are running Lifestream Solutions in Arizona. This hurt me so much as well as my brothers and caused so much pain.I personally do not think they should be allowed to counsel anyone ,as dating your client is against the rules,right? Any comments on all this? kris

Adultery is the ultimate in selfish, self-centered immaturity.

Marriage is a contract, and failing that contract should be the same as an other contract. If people sign a business contract and then breach it, there are consequences legally. Why should a marriage contract be any different?

Letting people off-the-hook because others do it doesn't change that it was wrong in the first place. Sometimes things happen. But people make a decision to commit Adultery. Make the decision to leave the person, and then, after you've left, date someone else.

IMHO Adultery should be legally actionable more than criminally actionable, but it needs to be actionable in some way. Otherwise, what's the repercussions of people who cheat without remorse? Society has to discipline those that won't discipline themselves.