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Infidelity
Prevent Infidelity

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on April 15, 2012

Did you know that 55-65 percent of men cheat and 45-55 percent of women cheat? It may seem it’s about sex, but in reality sex is better at home.

Did you know that 55-65 percent of men cheat and 45-55 percent of women cheat? It may seem it’s about sex, but in reality sex is better at home.

Sex
The Secret of Erotic Desire

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on February 12, 2012

"Valentine's Day is Tues and I love Eric, but something's missing," lamented Laura.

"What do you think that something is?" I asked.

"Valentine's Day is Tues and I love Eric, but something's missing," lamented Laura.

"What do you think that something is?" I asked.

Relationships
The Power of Silence in Our Love Lives

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on January 8, 2012

"Mommy, let's listen to silence" remarked my five year old son on one of our many nature walks. In silence we got in touch with our inner thoughts, our minds, and our souls so that we could communicate in a meaningful way. That was then, some 35 years ago: then there is now.

"Mommy, let's listen to silence" remarked my five year old son on one of our many nature walks. In silence we got in touch with our inner thoughts, our minds, and our souls so that we could communicate in a meaningful way. That was then, some 35 years ago: then there is now.

Relationships
After the Loving

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 25, 2011

"What happened to her? I don't know this woman." Steve implored me.

I was puzzled, "She changed so much?"

"Yeah. She was so sweet, loving, and lovely; now she's angry and she blames everything on me. She even filed for divorce." Tears welled up in Steve's eyes.

"What happened to her? I don't know this woman." Steve implored me.

I was puzzled, "She changed so much?"

"Yeah. She was so sweet, loving, and lovely; now she's angry and she blames everything on me. She even filed for divorce." Tears welled up in Steve's eyes.

Relationships
The Art of Listening to Your Lover

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 18, 2011

Ken looked up at me and said, "I'm so in love with her. She's beautiful but it's more than that."

"Like?"

"She knows what I'm about to say before I say it."

Ken looked up at me and said, "I'm so in love with her. She's beautiful but it's more than that."

"Like?"

"She knows what I'm about to say before I say it."

Sex
What Drives a Sex Addict, Part 11

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 11, 2011

In my last blog, Married to a Sex Addict, I described the plight of the spouse who is married to a male sex addict. On Oct 7, 2009 I wrote about the psychology of a female sex addict. More recently the topic of sex addiction is being hyped in the media.

In my last blog, Married to a Sex Addict, I described the plight of the spouse who is married to a male sex addict. On Oct 7, 2009 I wrote about the psychology of a female sex addict. More recently the topic of sex addiction is being hyped in the media.

Sex
Married to a Sex Addict

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 4, 2011

Sex addiction is big news these days. Chris Lee of the Daily Beast wrote The Sex Addiction Epidemic on November 25 which Newsweek featured. Whereas Lee's story followed a female sex addict, the new movie Shame follows a male sex addict. In my blog on Oct 7 2009, What Drives a Sex, I wrote about the inner world of the sex addict.

Sex addiction is big news these days. Chris Lee of the Daily Beast wrote The Sex Addiction Epidemic on November 25 which Newsweek featured. Whereas Lee's story followed a female sex addict, the new movie Shame follows a male sex addict. In my blog on Oct 7 2009, What Drives a Sex, I wrote about the inner world of the sex addict.

Anxiety
Why Anxiety Is Good for Your Love Life

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on November 27, 2011

In the excellent article Why Anxiety is Good for You, page 55-65 in Time Magazine, December 5, 2011, Serge Bloch proposes that anxiety can help you move faster or it can paralyze you.

In the excellent article Why Anxiety is Good for You, page 55-65 in Time Magazine, December 5, 2011, Serge Bloch proposes that anxiety can help you move faster or it can paralyze you.

Child Development
The Past Is Prologue

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on November 20, 2011

To make this the best holiday season, you will be celebrating with friends and family. All of these events are welcome. What are not welcome are old family ghosts—painful reminders of hurtful childhood interactions.

To make this the best holiday season, you will be celebrating with friends and family. All of these events are welcome. What are not welcome are old family ghosts—painful reminders of hurtful childhood interactions.

Empathy
Loving Me Means Walking in My Shoes

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on November 13, 2011

The most erogenous zone in the body is the brain. Here then is how you can use the brain in a sexy manner. Try to listen and take the pulse of your partner, then, step into your partner's shoes emotionally. You will achieve a wonderful of empathic attunement in which you "get" each other.

The most erogenous zone in the body is the brain. Here then is how you can use the brain in a sexy manner. Try to listen and take the pulse of your partner, then, step into your partner's shoes emotionally. You will achieve a wonderful of empathic attunement in which you "get" each other.

Depression
Single But Not Sad This Holiday Season

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on November 6, 2011

"My favorite holiday Thanksgiving is less than three weeks away. I always cook up a storm and my large family comes over. Not that I like all of them, but I love entertaining and I don't feel lonely."

"My favorite holiday Thanksgiving is less than three weeks away. I always cook up a storm and my large family comes over. Not that I like all of them, but I love entertaining and I don't feel lonely."

Loneliness
Prevent New Year's Loneliness Now

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on October 30, 2011

Successful in her career, with a svelte body, a winning smile, and good friends, Elise, nevertheless, felt sad and alone. It is not that Elise is prone to fits of self-pity or that she is ungrateful for what she has. It's that she wanted a more intimate relationship with her partner Adam.

Successful in her career, with a svelte body, a winning smile, and good friends, Elise, nevertheless, felt sad and alone. It is not that Elise is prone to fits of self-pity or that she is ungrateful for what she has. It's that she wanted a more intimate relationship with her partner Adam.

Relationships
Differences That Divide

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on October 23, 2011

Why do so many of us find someone we love, only to try changing him? Contrary to what you may think, trying to change someone else to be more like you is not a sign of strength.

Why do so many of us find someone we love, only to try changing him? Contrary to what you may think, trying to change someone else to be more like you is not a sign of strength.

Attachment
He's Such a Momma's Boy

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on October 16, 2011

Instead of fighting him on this close attachment to his mother, join him. After all, if you love him and he is attached to his mother, it behooves you to see just what his attachment is based on.

Instead of fighting him on this close attachment to his mother, join him. After all, if you love him and he is attached to his mother, it behooves you to see just what his attachment is based on.

Attention
He Doesn't Hear Me

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on October 2, 2011

"My birthday is coming up this Friday. You always forget it, and it's a big one, my fiftieth." Beth stretched out on the couch.

Looking down at his smart phone, Steve remarked "The stock market is plummeting."

Sitting up straight, Beth's voice rose "I'm talking to you. Why are you looking at your phone?"

"My birthday is coming up this Friday. You always forget it, and it's a big one, my fiftieth." Beth stretched out on the couch.

Looking down at his smart phone, Steve remarked "The stock market is plummeting."

Sitting up straight, Beth's voice rose "I'm talking to you. Why are you looking at your phone?"

Genetics
He Just Won't Commit

Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on September 25, 2011

"Why can't we see each other on Friday evenings?" Aimee asked.

A look of annoyance crossed Gene's face as he said "That's my night with the guys. I've told you that over and over."

"OK, OK, I get it." Tears welled up in her eyes.

"Why can't we see each other on Friday evenings?" Aimee asked.

A look of annoyance crossed Gene's face as he said "That's my night with the guys. I've told you that over and over."

"OK, OK, I get it." Tears welled up in her eyes.